Theoretically, people have assumed the unimaginable characteristics they want in a lifetime partner and this has led to the waiting game for a lifetime partner that doesn’t really exist. To be sincere with you I cannot be exempted.
When I was a lot younger I listed out all the specifics and qualities I wanted in a man such as tall, dark, handsome, rich, sexy, God- fearing, cool, honest, sincere, must have a dimple, must love everything about me every day and night…the list was endless. I wanted the perfect guy that never existed. Ask me have I found him?…๐ฎ๐จ That answers it…
We simply need to cut down on the requirements for the lifetime partner so that we can have a real life with the one that will love the life with us not in perfection but in satisfaction and completion.
So what are the requirements we want in a man or woman we choose to spend our life with?
Mine would be the man that understands me even without saying a word…one that will accept my imperfections and I do same with. Don’t get me wrong just because I don’t want the perfect partner doesn’t signify that I want to spend my life with a monster or someone that I would wake up in the morning beside and ask myself ” was I blind when I married this man?” I’m sorry but I have to be sincere๐๐
What specifically do you want in a lifetime partner? Please share๐๐๐
Just someone who accepts me
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Short and simple is sure the best. Have an awesome weekend.
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thank you, same to you ๐
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I found mine and have been with her for over 24 years between dating and marriage. Things aren’t always smooth and it has been up and down, but I can’t see my life without her. I still consider myself the luckiest man alive.
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Someone who continues to grow and change and supports me as I grow and change. My husband and I have been together since we were 21…so lots of change throughout the years. And rarely at the same time. ๐
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Oh I’m so glad to read your comment, it so much gives me hope that such partners still truly exist. Thanks so much for sharing ๐
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That’s awesome..I love reading blog comments, it just so much exposes me to so many things I never knew existed and I do hope it’s same with others too. Thanks so much for sharing this part of your life, it’s really encouraging and will learn from๐
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We ourself are not perfect, so can’t expect our life partners to be perfect.. but yes I was looking for more of a friend who could be understanding (like our best friends) we don’t have to pretend or change much.. but…. Still life is how we take it.. better to see the positive in him/her
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So true we aren’t perfect. Thanks for the contribution, it’s been very inspiring ๐๐
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I am glad I could share my view.. thanks to you
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I didn’t have any prerequisites, other than sense of humor. I believe that no one person is perfect. We all have flaws. The key is finding the one who’s perfect for you. That’s different for everyone, of course. And often, vastly different from the unattainable characteristics one may have thought would make for a perfect partner. Waiting for that “perfect” specimen is a good recipe to end up alone. Not saying settle. That’s worse than being alone. Just don’t overlook someone perfect for you simply because they don’t have perfect hair or make tons of money or drive the “right” car, ya’ know?
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My pleasure ๐
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“Finding the one who’s perfect for you” says lot. I love that..You know I’ve seen men married to women that I probably wouldn’t dream of getting married to if I were a man cos of their shit but guess what this same men say they are the perfect women for them. One man’s meat is another’s poison. Thanks so much for sharing dear. I appreciate ๐
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This is so true. And the one who appears perfect, from the outside looking in, isn’t always. Initial physical attraction is great, and necessary. But looks are not a great reason to attempt to maintain a long-term relationship. They fade, and can be great cover for a crappy human being. Not all physically beautiful people are crappy, of course. But looks are not what a great union should be based upon.
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Acceptance is the first key…but, partners must grow together, then tolerate any disparity of growth. People grow at varying rates, but as long as there’s growth, there’s hope! No growth by either partner = disconnection, and acceptance is strained…
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The main point is he/she should respect you for who you are and not change you to what they want for themselves. That is the first sign that the person is perfect for you. Me and my husband have been together for 10 years now. And its just the respect for each other that doesn’t let egos come between us. Once ego comes in a relationship its very difficult to maintain the relationship further. So anyone who keeps aside his/her ego for you and makes you want to so the same for them is the one for you.
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I envy your prerequisite! You will hardly get overly dissappointed because you did not have high expectations.
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I admire hardwork, and courage and someone who will always be there for me, no matter what.
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I never thought of having requisite for a partner. We just fell in love and have been together 53 years. There has been bad times and good times, illness and joyful memories but in the end we have grown together and learned how to accept each other. This I must say, was not until just about recently….of course we bitched and we kicked but you cannot change another person, neither can you mold them as you wish. Another will never as you want them, there is such thing. Acceptance, understanding, love and compromise are essential.. Then again, some people are meant to be together while others do very well on their own. People who are married wish they were single, singles wish they were married….hehehehe..
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I’d love to answer this question. Shame I can’t…
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I made a turn in my post when I saw what you had written ๐
Enjoyed reading ๐
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Make me laugh and bring me food and I’m yours๐๐
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Thanks dear ๐๐
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That’s a good one. As long as we are happy with the person.
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Life is funny eehn …We can’t change the other person but accept them..Thanks for sharing your wisdom.
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Lol. It’s alright Paul. But i really would have loved you to. Your contributions are always welcome any how it comes ๐๐
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Lol. Thanks dear. Have a lovely weekend ๐๐
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Lol.๐๐๐omg that’s awesome!!
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The same to you!
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It’s just a very difficult one to answer as my idea of the perfect partner has changed so often over the years and so often what I thought was perfect turned out to be anything but
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Lol. I get your point very well ๐
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No, I had high expectations, but not directly related to anything specific. I wanted my soulmate, my one, my destiny, etc. I wasn’t going to settle for “almost” or “nearly” or “sort of” kinda love. I wanted all-in, all-encompassing, intense love. If not, they aren’t the one for me. But it had nothing to do with preconceived wants or musts, other than to make me laugh and laugh with/at me. Beyond that, I figured I’d know when it was forever. But, I wasn’t going to settle for less than that kind of love.
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Its too late for me, but I would have liked someone I know I could just, someone who loved me really loved me and wanted me and took care of me. I have done my share.
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You have a beautiful heart and I refuse to accept that it’s too late…We all deserve to be loved and to love..๐
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I think I understand you well and it makes a lot of sense. Goodluck with that.
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Thanks. It’s worked out pretty dang good for the past 25 years, so….. ๐
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Awhhh, so sweet. Kudos
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Interesting
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Mine passed me the offering plate at church over 30 years ago. Love him so ๐๐
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Oh that’s romantic in a way๐ thanks for sharing.
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