flattery | EDDAZ

There are people out there to praise you just as their are those to criticize you. Our heart must always be open to accept praises just as it accepts criticism. What we ought to do is to hold it in our hands, access it because sometimes the criticism helps bring the best out of us.

Accepting praises all the time without also accessing it is dangerous as it can get into our heads especially when we have confused praises with flattery just for what can be obtained from us. We have to pay attention to be able to identify critics that are out there to make or bring us down.

What I say to critics is to ‘bring it on’, I’m fully open to critics just as am fully open to accessing them and criticizing them critics too😀😀

To be sincere with you there are times I pretend to ignore critics but sometimes deep down in my heart I know they are telling the truth…Though not all of them but I have been able to identify those that are saying the fact and I sit myself down to adjust things. It has paid off so much..

One thing deep critics, I mean those that have taken it as a profession don’t know is that when they take one step in criticizing someone, the person takes two steps forward in being a better person while they take three steps back in fooling themselves and remaining stagnant…

Over the years, there has been a saying that ” If you want a woman to comply to your requests, try using flattery to persuade her.” Really I wonder if every or any man can get away with this with all women. It may have worked a couple of times, in fact it has worked 98 percent of the time used. Flattery plays well with women. YES! But it doesn’t sit still. She will always refer back to it.

Hank Ketcham- Flattery is like chewing gum. Enjoy it, but don’t swallow it.

Perhaps women have been complying with this over the years.

Flattery is the worst and fastest way of showing our esteem – Jonathan Swift

Flattery is a form of positive energy which men use to compliment or entice women when they need an instant result from them; it’s usually used instead of enforcing them to bend to their will.

Forms of Flattery used on women by men:

Men flatter women with words, lies, compliments and gestures.
Listening attentively to a woman talk for hours, even when she sounds very boring.
Pretending to have turned a new leaf by acting like a saint or being over sincere.
Showing interests in her accomplishments even if they make no sense to him.

A woman care about actions more than words, empty juicy flattery with nothing to back it up will only get her to pay attention initially, but will not go too far with her.

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