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How Not To Stay Single

I published a post on my blog two weeks ago on “Why Men Stay Single,” hence based on one of my dear readers who asked me to write on this topic, “How not to stay single,” here we go. But note, I’m not a relationship expert, everything I write on my blog based on relationships, love, and marriage is of my opinion, research, and true life experiences.

It’s a state of mind when you panic about being single, it should be considered as a learning period; Once you accept the position in your life, it will surprise you how other things will fall into place, things you never expected nor planned. Getting married or entering a long-term relationship is not the end to your struggles… believe me; It’s an eye-opener and another learning ground. But the good news is that if you meet the right person who is willing to travel on the same path – you will be able to rock the boat together regardless of the storms…

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If you don’t want to stay single, consider the following…

-Accept that you are single.

-Search your heart since no one is listening to your thoughts and ask yourself if you are ready for a relationship.

-If you feel insecure or have biased feelings about dating but unwilling to stay single, you might need to make some visits to your therapy.

-Stay happy and take time to discover yourself.

-You will make mistakes but never be hard on yourself.

-Acknowledge that no one is perfect.

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-Don’t be selective of men or women to date.

-Build your confidence, work on your charisma, be real.

-Always put yourself together.

-Don’t rush into any relationship because you don’t want to stay single.

-Don’t dwell on the past but look forward to the future with joy on the horizon.

-Don’t make a list of what the ideal partner should be but open your heart.

-Prepare yourself for agreements, disagreements, love, long-term commitment and whatever you might encounter when you start dating.

-Be ready to let go, there will be times you must sacrifice your desires to make your partner happy.

When your ‘OWN’ partner comes, nothing can stop you from being together… NOTHING

If the relationship doesn’t work out, move on and stay happy, never lose confidence in yourself because it means that you and the person aren’t meant to be together.

Feel free to share your opinions on how not to stay single.

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Why Do Men Stay Single

I wanted to write a post on “Reasons men stay single” but then I realized that there’s a high chance I might end up not listing all. These reasons have evolved and increased over the years just as technology has developed. You know a few reasons men give include, “I love my privacy,”  “I’m living my life,” “I need to make more money,” “I’m not sure I will be a good father,” “I’ve not found a loving woman,” and lots more…I’m not trying to lash out at men but this post is for good reason.

We all desire privacy and want to live our lives, we seek for the best; I know for a fact that single life is significant but I think it should only be for a time that leads to maturity. There are many more single women waiting to meet men ready to outgrow the single man status, yet the number grows every day. God created every man with a missing rib and until you find it, you will never be fulfilled in life.

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Men have thousands of reason to stay single thus indicating many more irrational motives and belief towards this action; with all sincerity, men don’t even have a genuine reason for wanting to stay single and I’ve realized over time that they will always have excuses for everything pertaining to staying single.

Why do men stay single? Kindly share your opinions.

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We Only Need Men To Have Children

I absolutely don’t support this statement nor this action which is becoming rampant in today’s society. Some women have decided to demote themselves by saying all they need men for is to have children. This mind set leading to frivolous actions comes with lots of complications we never envisage. I felt very uncomfortable when a close friend said this to me and had to set her straight.

I’m a woman with needs which doesn’t include stooping low in search of men just to bring innocent children into the world and then zoom off like nothing happened, what would be my explanation to them when they are older.

We need men…point blank…just as men need us but for the right reasons procreation is one of them but not the major reason. Both sexes want to be loved, deserve respect for each other and need someone to lean on through communication.

If dating each other doesn’t work out or the marriage collapsed when least expected, if it’s unrepearable, then try searching for someone else. Despite all actions taken to win a man’s heart in a relationship or gain respect from one’s husband, peradventure it doesn’t work out or isn’t going as we hoped it would, we need to accept where life has taken us to, learn and modify our actions.

Don’t give up on your heart’s desire but do things the right way!!!

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How Many Men Did You Have Sex With?

How many men did you have sex with before you met your recent boyfriend or fiancé? Please tell me you won’t even consider answering this evil question.

WhenI was still naive I used to say to myself that I would tell the man I love or end up spending my life with everything but as I got older and more mature in love life and relationships I realised it wasn’t going to happen. It’s a question that requires no answer even if he buys you the world don’t make that mistake of confessing. The offensive fact is men love to ask this question. Women do too atimes but we don’t fret over it.

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I’ve had friends whom have lost their lovers in this process all in the name of building blocks of solid relationship and trust. It’s a different scenerio if you are still a virgin but I think you might have had sex with seven times a dozen men in your life time or less…ouch…hmm I’m just typing.

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How many men did you have sex with? If he asks you this question, it’s all on you, tell him the truth if you feel you really have to without loosing a thing but honestly I would imply you not to tell because there’s an eighty percent chance that he would see you less of who you are and you gradually fade into thin air before him, he wouldn’t admit it if you talk about it with him when it starts to happen….that’s just men.

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We Are Women To Be Cherished

We are women to be cherished.

We are beautiful

The heart beat of mankind

We are gorgeous and should be protected

Love us and be kind to us.

We are powerful.

 

We are women to be cherished

The nation needs us to eradicate adversities

Women are strong to face the wrought of evil

Women bring out the greatness hidden in men

We are givers of life

The man’s strenght comes from the women

We are women to be cherished, keep that smile beaming on our faces and see the whole lot we brought into the world to offer.

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Would You Show Love Or Say It

It’s usually a confusing state of mind when women and men in relationships don’t know if to tell their partner they are in love with them or just simply keep showing it without having to say it out.

Some have had sad experiences where when they start saying “I love you” to their partner is actually the stage when the partner starts messing up or taking their feelings for granted because it now sounds like song to their ears.

Remember some of us get tired of even very interesting songs over time while others probably don’t, which is very rare.

Which would you rather do?

•Say it often to your partner ” I love you”?

•Just simply keep showing the love and affection without saying it?

•Do both but how often?

 

When He Cares But Not Ready

I’ve sometimes wondered about this type of men that show women they care about them but say it out so blatantly that they aren’t ready for a commitment and then this type of man that wants to get a girl pregnant before he decides to marry her. Life is a wierd dude…. ain’t it? I was at the salon and heard a group of friends talk about this men in their life.

Guy A.

He’s a cool guy, doing fine in his career, responsible, funny, shows support to the girl he cares about, treats her with respect and not a player but not sure if he is ready to get committed by going into a relationship with her, doesn’t even care much about getting sex or not. Beeps her when she goes quiet.

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My opinion is that this guy has a phobia of some sort. But what can a girl do with this type of guy?

Guy B.

He’s got good career, hardworking bad ass guy, good looking, searching for a girl to get pregnant before he decides to get married to her considering the fact that he has tried lots of girls that haven’t been able to give him one. Lol…even though he already has a kid almost out of college.

He cares but not ready

My opinion is that I’m clueless to what this guy really wants. Or maybe he’s just damn old school.

What’s your opinion about this two guys?

Is Sex A Priority Or An Option?

I would like to analyze this in two aspects ” sex as a priority or an option in a relationship” and sex as a priority or an option in a marriage”…

From my point of view which I believe is same with many of us- sex is a priority in marriage…isn’t it? So enjoy it to the fullest.

Is sex a priority or an option

Talking about it being a priority in a relationship, I would definitely say NO. I’m dead sure a lot of guys are not on same page with me here.

Having sex with my boyfriend is an option for me because it’s my body until he wraps that ring on my finger, then it becomes a priority. Better still if I chose to have sex with him, it’s still my option because I love to.

Is sex a priority or an option?

It’s high time men stop seeing sex as priority especially these damned stuffed up men on the dating site that seek for sex like they would die any moment they don’t get it.

 

 

When Is The Right Time To Introduce My Boyfriend

It bugs me each time I meet a new guy in my life and then he says to me ‘I would like to know some of your friends or siblings’…Men are known for their hmmm😓 funny attitudes especially in the dating field.

It might also be the other way round…They want to meet him😓😓 and then he turns out to be a moron…

When do i introduce my boyfriend

What if I introduce him to my innermost world of friends or family today and he jilts me tomorrow😮 how would my loved ones feel? They are usually very sensitive about what goes on in our life. Is it timely?

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What do I say to them? And then the next guy comes along and then another and another..What the hell??

Kindly share your opinion on the right time to introduce my boyfriend…

 

My Female Director Is In Love with Me

I am Rob! The new guy on the block. An expatriate newly employed to set up new strategies of moving the business forward. Everyone sees me as a threat, they aren’t too sure what my mission is at the company, however I am here to set things straight. I don’t take no for an answer and I don’t  fail. Failure went away with the past.

I am at cross roads, stupidly in love with Hilda…The director of the company whom I had to transfer her toyboy since he was annoyingly troubling my thoughts and his unethical behaviour at the organisation was unprofitable. An empty brained good looking idiot.

Hilda deserves better…I love her and will show her the meaning of true love. I will let her know what a real man is..She needs to know what it feels like to be treated like a woman. That ice clouding her chest, freezing her heartbeat, turning her into an emotionless woman with the power to shake an organisation and make men act clueless around her needs to be amended.

My heart beat quickened when I finally saw her walking in to the office hall, through my office glass door..I saw the pain written all over her face, while I wondered how she manages to maintain her balance with those 6 inch heels and the sexual shape that drives men crazy.

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She stepped into my office and broke down into tears while I softly took her in my arms, laid her head on my hard chest and let her release the whole pain while the staff member watched in amazement. She raised her soft heads looked into my eyes and said to me softly..Rob I can’t hold it any longer, I have tried so hard to stay away from you for years, I have tried so hard to work hard to take you off my mind, there’s so much pain in my chest from loving you, after all this year’s I need to love freely even if you don’t love me back.

I was shocked, I felt like my shoes were stuck to the hard floor and I couldn’t raise them, when I opened my mouth to talk, my voice sounded like a frog croaking. I cleared it and finally said to her..”Hilda I have always admired you and have fallen in love with you. I love you from deep within me..You are the woman I have always prayed to spend my life with if you accept” and then I devoured her mouth with a long kiss right there in my office.

Rob built his own organization elsewhere while. He dated Hilda for a while and they got married. Harry was relieved of his duties while he was caught making out with one of the female cleaners in the office at his new location.

Here are the links to the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd part of the stories:

Harry- Oh my sexy female director

Harry –  What my sexy female director did

Harry- My Sexy Female Director Has Done It

Rob-loving Loving my sexy female director

Thanks for reading and hope you enjoyed the stories😍😍