Is sex a priority or an option?

Is Sex A Priority Or An Option?

I would like to analyze this in two aspects ” sex as a priority or an option in a relationship” and sex as a priority or an option in a marriage”…

From my point of view which I believe is same with many of us- sex is a priority in marriage…isn’t it? So enjoy it to the fullest.

Is sex a priority or an option

Talking about it being a priority in a relationship, I would definitely say NO. I’m dead sure a lot of guys are not on same page with me here.

Having sex with my boyfriend is an option for me because it’s my body until he wraps that ring on my finger, then it becomes a priority. Better still if I chose to have sex with him, it’s still my option because I love to.

Is sex a priority or an option?

It’s high time men stop seeing sex as priority especially these damned stuffed up men on the dating site that seek for sex like they would die any moment they don’t get it.




28 thoughts on “Is Sex A Priority Or An Option?”

  1. I would never ever ever dream of disagreeing with you here. I 100% agree. Your body, your choice, no means no. Even into marriage. Marital rape is a thing as well. And I don’t find begging or pleading or even pretending to kid about pressuring into sex okay either. But I have two questions. First is, since I agree that sex is a priority in marriage as well, how do you feel about considering ‘sexual compatibility’ with a partner? Is it something you consider in a relationship, and if so, how do you gauge it without having sex? Second, since it is every person’s right to choose to or choose not to have sex, how do you feel about a person’s right to end a relationship based on that too?

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  2. Hi Rob ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰…thanks for the comment…sex is truly product of a relationship but when it’s been demanded for at the onset of the relationship or even before it gets to the relationship stage then it’s no longer something to be loved or enjoyed, that’s the reason why I think it should be an option in a relationship…i.e. a choice to be made, like you said as a product of a sweet relationship.

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  3. I don’t think sex is a priority at all. I think it’s overrated. I think it blinds humans from achieving things. Young men and women go hunting for it instead of trying to make something of themselves. I know. I was one of them. I was a fool. It’s a mistake I’ll never make again. Sex has been the root cause for most of the trouble in my life. It’s dead to me!

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  4. Thanks for your comment manvsloneliness…in response to your first question -sexual compatibility with a partner from my own point of view is important and usually can only be considered if sex has already been initiated and it means you both enjoy what you’ve got together as a result leading to enjoying the sex life but it can’t be considered based on religious views by some partners that have to wait for sex after marriage so you get what you want…no matter how good you are in bed, as long as you don’t like your partner or feel good about the person, sexual compatibility will either be a priority or an option. Sex as priority is either enjoyed or not but has to be given under a particular given circumstance. The second question makes me feel bad๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€ but my answer to that is if a person is not enjoying sex in a relationship and has tried to work things out then I think it’s best to move on but if it’s in a marriage and you don’t enjoy it any longer or you never enjoyed it from the onset, then you are in deep shit๐Ÿ˜ฎ sex is priority in marriage so you have to find a way to please your partner and be pleased too however you decide. Hope this answers your questions if not completely but a little๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’•

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  5. Hi, thanks, it did! I really wonder because sex is a priority for me when I think of real committed relationships (not necessarily marriage but basically everything up to it, when you know you’re heading towards that commitment) but I’ve always wondered if there was a way to gauge compatibility without having to have sex first, because sometimes it can ruin a relationship or because I know there are some who would want to wait until after marriage for whatever reason and I wouldn’t ever want to change them from that, but at the same time it makes me worried to be in a relationship with them since I’ll never get to know something very important to me and so I feel I don’t give myself or them a real chance. So I was wondering if people had figured out a magical way to get that piece of information without sex and if having this sort of trepidation and hesitation to not want to be with someone when sex isn’t an option makes me a bad person. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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  6. Hi paul… It’s always good to read your comments๐Ÿ˜€ I’m glad you used that word hunting. It’s so scary meeting men this days and even before the date, the talk of sex comes up like it’s paradise on earth and must be explored immediately ๐Ÿ˜€’s such a shame as you also said it blinds humans from achieving things…I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts as always ๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’•

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  7. If sex is a priority for a man it means it’s either going to a one night stand or a no strings attached relationship. Because I don’t think any sane person would emotionally invest themselves in a relationship only because of sex.

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  8. Interesting and I agree with you.
    I have a question for you to keep in mind
    Since sex is a priority in a marriage
    Do you think bad sex or not getting enough sex will drastically affect a marriage in a negative way ?

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  9. It depends on what you are referring to as bad sex but obviously insufficient sex from my own opinion might affect marriage in a negative way where the one partner wants and the other one can’t give enough to satisfy.

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  10. I have 2 different meanings for bad sex and you can answer if you want
    1) your partner is very inexperienced have trouble performing in certain positions becuase of performance anxiety and have trouble maintaining his erection

    2) He is lazy and only care about his own needs and falls asleep once he finishes and only do the same position because of laziness

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  11. I see sex is something that helps keep a relationship healthy. It is a need that both people need to understand and meet. If is not being balanced, things go wrong. Then again, communication is also needed to maintain the balance and express your sexual desires. Myself, I find I want it so often. When it is not being met in a relationship, I got moody. So then I get dissatisfied and start to contemplate where the man is getting it from. People think to lightly when it comes to sex as a need and do not believe it to be.

    – This comes from an individual addicted to sex.

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  12. . Thanks for your scuttlebutt manvsloneliness…in response to your foremost query -intimate practiceual compatibility with a cooperator from my ain point of horizon is significant and usually can only be considered if intimate practice has already been initiated and it means you both savour what you’ve got toobtainher as a outcome leading to savouring the intimate practice lifetime but it can’t be considered based on religious horizons by some cooperators that cause to waiting for intimate practice after marriage ceremony so you obtain what you require…no topic how skillful you are in layer, as long as you don’t like your cooperator or flavor skillful about the someone, intimate practiceual compatibility will either be a priority or an selection.

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  13. Perhaps it really is the product but I hold it as compulsory still. It’s the prize you should get for your love. For your being in that position. Think about a non rewarding job; would you like that?
    Remember humans have since time immemorial been made to have a love for physical objects, Israelites asked to have a physical, tangible, humanly king that they could see. They built the golden calf that they could worship, twice! Sex too is very preferable as a physical statement of our relationship.
    I don’t think it’s an idea to be hated though. I don’t see any bad in it. Actually, I say it’s good. Good for everyone and the world.

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