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The Ideal Relationship

Healthy relationships create an atmosphere for friendship and courtship. It comprises trust, honesty, respect, and loyalty so you have hope for an ideal relationship based on this foundation. It’s not always as easy as it sounds because there’s bound to be conflicts, disagreements, miscommunications and this happens because we are human and no one is perfect.

Therefore, before going into any relationship, remember your partner isn’t perfect, neither are you so don’t expect a relationship without flaws.

Ideas on building the Ideal Relationship.

  • Acknowledge each other’s feelings
  • Respect for each other.
  • Never condemn your partner
  • Accept each other’s flaws.
  • Accept you made mistakes and adjust.
  • Always communicate through talking, emailing, texting or written letters.
  • Forgive.
  • Don’t pretend to be perfect nor act saintly.
  • Help each other.
  • Build trust.

If the following doesn’t work, then you may need to take a break and figure out what you both want from each other.

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Why We Love Sexting

When I was a teenager I do believe there was nothing like sexting or maybe there was but I wasn’t aware, now I’m older and sexting is the main thing. I kind of love to go further into it but first, we need to understand what it is and accept it’s movement which comes with advantages depending on who is involved, also the disadvantages especially on teenagers.

According to Wikipedia, sexting is sending, receiving, or forwarding sexually explicit messages, photographs, or images, primarily between mobile phones.

I got so intense into knowing more then I did a research on why some people love sexting and here is what I discovered.

Why we love sexting

“Sexting is quite exciting because it’s almost the same as physical intimacy but at the same time you can allow yourself to do more than you can in real life. Sexting is a great way to start a relationship or develop them”

“We make new friends, strangers become so close, you can share anything about sex with them without even knowing who they are, you get to know each other’s sexual preferences, discuss, share and have fun”

“In marriage, it’s a continuation of an intimate relationship that stimulates bonding chemicals in your brain, and makes hotter sex when you have it.”

My own opinion of why we love sexting is that it arouses excitement between the male and female by creating an imaginary sexual act to quench the energized appetite for intimacy. If it has to be done, then it has to be carried out in caution because technology is like the devil itself, sexting should be enjoyed between couples, but not as a way to cheat on your partner or deprive your spouse of the real act.

Your opinion will be appreciated. Thanks for reading…

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Dating The Wrong Person

You saw her

Chased her

Dated her

Loved her

Married her

Then you should keep loving her…

Just don’t ever stop chasing her….

Are you in a relationship that brings tears, sorrow, doubts, low self esteem into your life?

You used to be a very happy person, fun to be with, ambitious but all of a sudden you don’t even know who you are anymore, you find yourself feeling agitated a lot, your smiles fading day by day.

Dating The Wrong Person

Then you are dating the wrong person….being single is also a virtue you know?

Better be single and be happy than date the wrong person that will suck you dry until you have no more to give.

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Would you wait to meet the the right person to date or stay in that ugly relationship and try to turn things around?

 

The Building Blocks Of A Relationship

Every relationship has issues

But when you confront it

By giving it everything you’ve got

Such as Communication, trust, patience

Then you have tightened a bond

That can never be broken.

The building blocks of relationships that makes it stand strong and firm as tested and trusted by the older generations are being stamped on by the younger generations.

Why?

We are so impatient, lack trust for whatever reason, we see communication as a disturbance or unnecessary move, we want it right here! Now! Immediately or we will crumble.

Communication, trust and patience are the steps to wisdom we need to thrive to embrace, feed upon and apply to our daily lives, relationships and marriages. It has worked before, will work again and will always work!!!

 

Is Sex A Priority Or An Option?

I would like to analyze this in two aspects ” sex as a priority or an option in a relationship” and sex as a priority or an option in a marriage”…

From my point of view which I believe is same with many of us- sex is a priority in marriage…isn’t it? So enjoy it to the fullest.

Is sex a priority or an option

Talking about it being a priority in a relationship, I would definitely say NO. I’m dead sure a lot of guys are not on same page with me here.

Having sex with my boyfriend is an option for me because it’s my body until he wraps that ring on my finger, then it becomes a priority. Better still if I chose to have sex with him, it’s still my option because I love to.

Is sex a priority or an option?

It’s high time men stop seeing sex as priority especially these damned stuffed up men on the dating site that seek for sex like they would die any moment they don’t get it.

 

 

It Boils Down To Two Choices  

You make your choices and live with them; OR you change your mind and make new choices. Great post written by Itsallbuki. Read and enjoy!

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There are a lot of marriages out there that aren’t thriving. Yet the bulk of the responsibility to keep it together is on the woman. Who teaches girls or rather who brain-washes girls that their responsibility is to baby their marriage and chase their husbands till they die? When they are babying another adult, who will baby them? Or are women destined to be the sad haggard one in life? Yet when these women reach out for help, the general word is, it’s your cross or lot in life and then you find that they resign to living out their days with a spouse who is flawed and making them anxious and miserable.

I have both female and male friends who like to engage in very meaningful and intimate conversations about love and life. I listen especially closely to…

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When a Relationship Sends you Running for Cover

The strength of courtship between  a man and woman lies in the bond between them. What creates this bond is the relationship.

Facing reality, a relationship will do one or all this things to you; it will either kill you, modify, render you useless, make you float with joy, make you feel edgy constantly or decide on the one. The foundation must be built at the onset of the courtship.

I have a friend in dilemma #relationshipheadache. She saw it all but could’t let go, in spite of all the danger signs. It’s a real headache! Realistically if it was you, would you TAKE THE BOLD STEP AND RUN FOR COVER?

Yes you should run for your life! It’s sometimes tough to do but we just have to. Guys, when you dilly-dally in a relationship, you might end up in the ditch. What can be worse than getting involved with someone that is a complete ‘jughead’,  you had actually presumed that this person could be the one, and unfortunately turned out to be ‘a devil in disguise’.

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Fine, you’ve already gotten into the relationship thinking you have the right foundation but then you start to realise the mistake you made, It’s definitely not too late for you to take your exit.

There are instances where your partner could be forgiven but you must know when forgiveness should be applied and when you should no longer put up with the shit..

Signs you should run for cover:

Negativity

When your partner argues over everything and anything, sees all your flaws, nothing good about you, acts like a drama-queen, makes you feel bad….RUN.

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Too Busy

Even President Obama isn’t too busy for his family. Once you start getting this vibes of ‘I’m very busy’ from him, it’s time to quite without giving notice, WHY? Simply because you aren’t important enough, once your partner can do without you..Think!

Can’t be seen in public together

What a shame! Your partner can’t introduce you to friends, so what the hell are you still waiting for..Knock, Knock. Come on wake up, your partner should be proud of you, whoever you are, however you look or whatever you are. It’s not too late to RUN….

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Lying Freak

If he says it’s raining and you actually need to go out to affirm if it’s true-Hello? Babes, he’s just careless with your emotions….Your partner will probably tell you “I lied because I didn’t want to hurt you” OR “I lied because I respect you,” It’s a damn lie! If he didn’t want to hurt you or respect you, why did he mess up in the first place? There is no explainable reason for such..

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This signs are apparent to a lot of us, but sadly we ignore them because we are so caught up in our feelings, emotions and probably business deal we entered into with our partners at the onset.

Remember define your relationship from the beginning, it’s not too late to do it now before you move too deep into it.

 

Handling Relationships With Different Religious Beliefs

I received an email from a lady who was in despair need of an answer to her confused state of mind, and I decided to post the content on my blog due to the sensitivity of it. This is one out of few mails I have received regarding religious beliefs, but this sounded peculiar to me which is why I decided to adjust a few of the texts and publish it. Here it goes:

I have known this guy for almost five months, he asked me out but I never took him seriously because of our religious differences. I am a christian and worship in a Pentecostal church, he is from a Muslim background and converted to Christianity but worships in the spiritualist church.

My fear is that I don’t understand their belief system as my parents are strict Pentecostals, no one I know in my has ever worshiped in such a church. I am also someone that believes a lot in God and want to make heaven, I just don’t understand the beliefs of his church. I like his personality and would love to have a relationship with him, he wants to be committed to me but I have not given him the opportunity because I don’t know where it would lead to. I discussed my fears with him and he made me understand that he won’t force me to attend his church even though at some point in time, he would love it if I do. He also said his church is a Christ believing church as well.

My question is what would my family say about this? What if it ends in marriage which I know I would love to happen? Where would our kids be baptized? I don’t know how my mind would start to operate. I need to know here different opinions while I also pray about this. Do I go further in dating him and getting to know him more or I should just forget about going into this affair with him even though I think about him almost every night and he seems to be the only man I have ever felt comfortable with in my life.

My own take on this is once I’m in love, the rest is history. We humans are different, and moreover it’s indeed sensitive that’s why Your kind comments and suggestions are welcome.

Thank you.