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We Only Need Men To Have Children

I absolutely don’t support this statement nor this action which is becoming rampant in today’s society. Some women have decided to demote themselves by saying all they need men for is to have children. This mind set leading to frivolous actions comes with lots of complications we never envisage. I felt very uncomfortable when a close friend said this to me and had to set her straight.

I’m a woman with needs which doesn’t include stooping low in search of men just to bring innocent children into the world and then zoom off like nothing happened, what would be my explanation to them when they are older.

We need men…point blank…just as men need us but for the right reasons procreation is one of them but not the major reason. Both sexes want to be loved, deserve respect for each other and need someone to lean on through communication.

If dating each other doesn’t work out or the marriage collapsed when least expected, if it’s unrepearable, then try searching for someone else. Despite all actions taken to win a man’s heart in a relationship or gain respect from one’s husband, peradventure it doesn’t work out or isn’t going as we hoped it would, we need to accept where life has taken us to, learn and modify our actions.

Don’t give up on your heart’s desire but do things the right way!!!

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Why We Love Sexting

When I was a teenager I do believe there was nothing like sexting or maybe there was but I wasn’t aware, now I’m older and sexting is the main thing. I kind of love to go further into it but first, we need to understand what it is and accept it’s movement which comes with advantages depending on who is involved, also the disadvantages especially on teenagers.

According to Wikipedia, sexting is sending, receiving, or forwarding sexually explicit messages, photographs, or images, primarily between mobile phones.

I got so intense into knowing more then I did a research on why some people love sexting and here is what I discovered.

Why we love sexting

“Sexting is quite exciting because it’s almost the same as physical intimacy but at the same time you can allow yourself to do more than you can in real life. Sexting is a great way to start a relationship or develop them”

“We make new friends, strangers become so close, you can share anything about sex with them without even knowing who they are, you get to know each other’s sexual preferences, discuss, share and have fun”

“In marriage, it’s a continuation of an intimate relationship that stimulates bonding chemicals in your brain, and makes hotter sex when you have it.”

My own opinion of why we love sexting is that it arouses excitement between the male and female by creating an imaginary sexual act to quench the energized appetite for intimacy. If it has to be done, then it has to be carried out in caution because technology is like the devil itself, sexting should be enjoyed between couples, but not as a way to cheat on your partner or deprive your spouse of the real act.

Your opinion will be appreciated. Thanks for reading…

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Stab Those Rules To Successful Relationships

I’ve often wondered if there are actually rules to a successful relationship as been told by some relationship experts and so on. What I’m trying to say here is this day to day rules been proposed by them…do they still work?

Has anyone applied some of this rules to their relationships recently and have come out with a successful love affair that has led to lasting relationship or marriag?

However my opinion in retrospect to this rules is that it cannot be 100 percent applied to everyone because a lot of us are wierd especially now that society has gone Gaga….

Stab those rules to Successful Relationships

Note….a lot of us are wierd and society has gone Gaga…. So please don’t be deceived.

Sitting and staring into the face of this rules or memorizing them? Haha…it’s best you study your partner and follow your heart….

You either win or loose!!

The Building Blocks Of A Relationship

Every relationship has issues

But when you confront it

By giving it everything you’ve got

Such as Communication, trust, patience

Then you have tightened a bond

That can never be broken.

The building blocks of relationships that makes it stand strong and firm as tested and trusted by the older generations are being stamped on by the younger generations.

Why?

We are so impatient, lack trust for whatever reason, we see communication as a disturbance or unnecessary move, we want it right here! Now! Immediately or we will crumble.

Communication, trust and patience are the steps to wisdom we need to thrive to embrace, feed upon and apply to our daily lives, relationships and marriages. It has worked before, will work again and will always work!!!

 

Is Sex A Priority Or An Option?

I would like to analyze this in two aspects ” sex as a priority or an option in a relationship” and sex as a priority or an option in a marriage”…

From my point of view which I believe is same with many of us- sex is a priority in marriage…isn’t it? So enjoy it to the fullest.

Is sex a priority or an option

Talking about it being a priority in a relationship, I would definitely say NO. I’m dead sure a lot of guys are not on same page with me here.

Having sex with my boyfriend is an option for me because it’s my body until he wraps that ring on my finger, then it becomes a priority. Better still if I chose to have sex with him, it’s still my option because I love to.

Is sex a priority or an option?

It’s high time men stop seeing sex as priority especially these damned stuffed up men on the dating site that seek for sex like they would die any moment they don’t get it.

 

 

What’s Love Got To Do With It

Just like Tina Turner sang it….

What’s love got to do, got to do with it

What’s love but a second hand emotion

What’s love got to do, got to do with it

Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken…

I met a man recently who turned out to be married. It was just right on time for me to nail the damn situation… Guess what he said when I told him I’m not into married men!!

He said ‘I never wanted to marry my wife, I had to marry her under the circumstances I found myself twenty years ago and now I will be free in three years time to divorce her and marry the woman of my dreams, I believe you are the one’

What!!!😓😓…So many cruel men out there now, moving around like vultures looking for preys to feed on😈…’I shall not be moved’

I hope he’s wife won’t be singing that song soon…And I will be singing smooth operator by Sade Adu…

A license to love, insurance to hold

Melts all your memories and change into gold

His eyes are like angels but his heart is cold…

Did I Marry The Wrong Person?

If you have recently found yourself asking the questions, bear in mind that you aren’t alone. Several couples do same. The question is why ask such at this stage of your marriage…

Did you get to know each other very well or was there an oversight? Were you guys true to yourself before eloping? Did the love fail in the middle of the journey? Did you guys loose focus somewhere? Sometimes we see the signs before taking the final decision and sometimes we don’t. Whatever happened; we are just humans.

Did I marry the wrong person?

What went wrong?… Remember when you took the vows, you did it because you were sure he or she was the right person for you until death do you apart…Always know that no one is perfect; don’t become too hard on yourself.

Once you find yourself in this dilemma what should be the next step to take? It’s a very confusing and depressing point in life when this questions start coming up, the feeling of being lost, nowhere to go, not sure who to talk to, not knowing what happened to the lover boy or sweet girl you married…It could be very sad.

One thing is certain…“All hope is not lost”… Everything that has happened in this world has happened before to other people and you won’t be the last it will happen to.

Take heart, pick up the bits and pieces where you left off…Think..It’s either you start afresh since you are already in it or you decide to take the easier step which might be the right or wrong one.

Did I marry the wrong person?

What I would do is to take a leap of faith if I still feel the love deep in my heart as long as it’s not an abusive marriage. To be honest with you if the man is violent with me, then I would definitely take a walk until or if ever he drops the violent nature. Meanwhile I would ensure I stay happy and focused.

It’s surely not an easy stage in life but try to stay strong, talk to trusted ones to free your mind, if you have kids, try to keep them happy and away from whatever drama might be occurring. Whatever you do, make sure you are truly happy doing it.

What would you do in this situation?

Getting Overworked In A Relationship

People meet each other, some develop attractions and start dating while others don’t but still go ahead onto that path, but realistically do we even really know what we want to achieve from this affair…Or are we just into the dating game to have fun and then move onto the next?

We eventually get overworked in them when we don’t face the facts…Take note of the following before going into a relationship so as to avoid hassles, heartbreak, depression and the likes…

1. Be sincere with yourself, knowing why you want to go into the relationship, what you aim to contribute and achieve.

2. Ensure you and your dating partner are on the same path. This is very essential as it makes the relationship more enjoyable and stressfree.

3. Never let your hopes be high, have a free mind and have fun as desired.

4. Cut down on your demands, it makes you appear desperate when you don’t.

5. Be friends, get to know each other before you start the relationship, ensure it’s someone you can treat like gold and do same to you.

6. While you are still single, prepare yourself, mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually and domestically because oh boy…You will need those tools.

Your aim is to have a relationship that leads to marriage?

When God knows you are ready for the responsibility of commitment, he will reveal the right person under the right circumstances- thesoul doctor.

 

Be a blessing to that person you go into a relationship with; not a heartbreaker; not a demon; not a bad story…- eddaz

 

Love, Sex & Marriage In The Ancient Time

When we look back to history, we find out that love, sex and marriage is quite different from what we have now. Ancient times dating back to centuries ago; polygamy was practiced more, even by the Hebrews. According to the Bible, King Solomon had 700 wives with hundreds of children but now in the 20th century till date, polygamy has reduced except still being practiced amongst the Muslims according to their religion and by some upper class people mostly in the African region.

Marriage used to be based on contracts to seal nations. The elite married their daughters off to acquire wealth, properties and lands. Women had no say in whom they can marry or what their heart desired. Marriages were mostly arranged and finalised at their young age. Marriages used to last longer, ‘until death do us apart’ was for real. Nowadays people marry for love, and then divorce creeped in like a thief in the night unfortunately it doesn’t creep in anymore, it comes out boldly to announce itself without any care in the world.

In ancient times people bear children as if it was a competition, nowadays it is suppressed by family planning to reduce over population, moreover some nations are getting poorer, their is very little means of feeding families. Majority of couples actually avoid having children and can basically decide if they want kids or not and how many they want.

In ancient times marriage was legalised between men and women but now we have legalised same sex marriages.

Sex was meant for virgins and practiced after marriage back in the centuries, it was done more cautiously; now people have sex at their leisure times for fun. I’ve heard some crazy facts about sex back then, I’m not sure which is crazier. Is sex more enjoyable and decent now or nastier in the ancient times? Please find out here. 

 

 

It Boils Down To Two Choices  

You make your choices and live with them; OR you change your mind and make new choices. Great post written by Itsallbuki. Read and enjoy!

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There are a lot of marriages out there that aren’t thriving. Yet the bulk of the responsibility to keep it together is on the woman. Who teaches girls or rather who brain-washes girls that their responsibility is to baby their marriage and chase their husbands till they die? When they are babying another adult, who will baby them? Or are women destined to be the sad haggard one in life? Yet when these women reach out for help, the general word is, it’s your cross or lot in life and then you find that they resign to living out their days with a spouse who is flawed and making them anxious and miserable.

I have both female and male friends who like to engage in very meaningful and intimate conversations about love and life. I listen especially closely to…

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