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Making the FIRST MOVE on a Man

First you need to understand the term “first move”; It can be something as small as a woman simply making an eye contact with a man, giving him a smile, or a simple hello; Opening the doors of communication and signalling to him that she is open to be approached or have a descent conversation. Have you ladies ever contemplated making the first move on a man?

Don’t get me wrong, I still believe that tradition that men should make the first move, when it come s to the courtship process- there are times when a woman need to take the “bull by the horn,” give him a little push in order to set the cycle in motion.

making the first move on a man

Trust me it fascinates men when the other sex makes a little push. In modern day dating, it has become acceptable for a woman to make that move, so KICK IT ON GIRL. You never know the guy out there dying to meet you or just trying to say a simple hello to you but doesn’t know how to make the move. Open the door for him and allow him to walk through it.

Men sometimes have this flutter in their chest while trying to approach a woman, “Is she with a man?” “will she give me an attitude?” “will she give me a kick?” All this doubts crossing through a man’s mind doesn’t show that they have a low esteem of themselves, it could only be that they are just on the reserved side or they are the shy type, moreover some of them actually don’t like taking no for an answer, it cripples their ego. We all know how men feel about this EGO THING, so don’t even be bothered. That’s just men!!

making the first move on a man

Life is something that we need to take control of in order to create the situations and outcomes that we want. If you sit on the sidelines and wait for prince charming to come and ask you for a dance, you leave time frame in his hands, topping it all up, he might never make that move.

Everything you’ve always wanted is right outside of your comfort zone. All you need is to step outside of it and begin creating the life you want. It won’t be as bad as you think it would be, even if the guy isn’t attracted to you, chances are he will be respectful to you.

A woman who approaches a man stands out; one can determine a few things about her. Her boldness tells that she’s confident, spontaneous, brave, and thinks outside the box.

making the first move on a man

Challenge yourself today or tomorrow, that guy you are sure you really like and would love to spend some time with, why not just develop the confidence, give him a sweet smile,but don’t flirt with him just yet, remember men can be judgmental sometimes. Hmm!

A few hints on steps to take in making the FIRST MOVE:

  • Work on your confidence level. Don’t be too forward, don’t be intimate with him, that could be dangerous at the onset, keep your emotions intact and far away, most of all avoiding saying ” I love you.”
  • Get to know him very well, what his likes and dislikes are, be sure about him but remember don’t flirt with him just yet. If you have concluded that he’s worth your attention, then move on to the next level.
  • Which is to let him know you exist by giving him soft sweet smiles once in a while, once you discover that you are at a few distance apart from each other, and he looks at you once in a while, it signifies he probably likes you. Start conversations with him on topics you might have found out he loves to talk about.
  • If your conversations are going on smoothly then, let him invite you out, if he doesn’t-You make the move; invite him out!! This is where your confidence and patience level is measured. The least that can happen is for him to turn your offer down, which I doubt would happen.
  • Allow the friendship to develop, be natural, let him feel free around you. Avoid getting obsessed with him while waiting!
  • Be patient- wait for him to take the final step of asking you to have a relationship with him, while waiting, ensure it’s not for too long.

Whatever happens next, just believe in yourself….

 

 

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Cracking the Nut On Monday

Monday starts a new  working day, much of the weekend fun, ravishing and excitement is back in the knap sack. You’ve been up as early as 4 A.M, plans for the day starts, thoughts about meeting clients, Monday meetings, challenges of having to facing “hard to crack clients” gives one headache.

You are at work right now, and guess you don’t even know where to start. Someone out there is probably having a headache, thinking about how to meet the target, or if a query is coming any time soon. It could as well be that you are thinking of quitting your job. You are almost feeling sick in your guts and wishing you had stayed back in bed. You are probably still on your way to the office having this fear at the pit of your stomach that you might loose your job today!!! Blah, blah, blah.

We all have horrible thoughts on Monday, if not all, then a great percentage of us. The good news is that, this is what Monday actually is:

M- Magnanimous

Today is an opportunity to stand out as a great person, be large at heart, be tolerant to people around you, remember they also wish they are still in bed. Whatever you perceive from people today is just a perception of what is in their own head, don’t take it personal.

O- Optimistic

Say to yourself – I am not a PESSIMIST. Get up, go out there and conquer, today proceeds the journey … be hopeful that you will win the trophy, be affirmative, have that “I can do it spirit,” don’t feel weighed down.

N- Neat

Look exceptionally neat today, it signifies you mean business and want to make progress this week. It profoundly portrays the image of a serious minded person. It speaks VOLUME; Neatness makes us feel that we have to be at the best behavior.

D- Determination

Walk into the office, smile, do not get upset with people or situations today, both are powerless without your reaction. If you are your own boss, set targets for yourself, be up to the task, take your kids to school with the mind set that today is surely certain.

A- Astounding

You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today-Abraham Lincoln.

Dazzle, be impressive, be strong at heart-DISTINCT sets you apart.

Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to LOVE what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking and don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, YOU WILL KNOW WHEN YOU FIND IT- Steve Jobs.

Y- Yippee

Friday is TGIF, just as Monday is “TGIM” Be so happy that when others look at you they become happy too.

I hope this makes you have a positive attitude towards Monday, IF not, at least it will prepare you for the journey.

 

Things To Know About Online Dating

Gone are the days of meeting potential partners through friends, families or in the social environment. Online dating is now in the big picture and making real waves across the internet and on applications. Online dating is real and has come to stay! And Yes you can find love through this medium.

The requirements needed to go online dating is just by going to play store, type online dating and within seconds various applications that can be downloaded pops up. It can be found across different Niche. It encourages friends without borders; This dating system has helped several couples in meeting up, some ended in fairy tale stories while some ended disastrous, but isn’t that the same thing with people that actually met physically (Real World)? My opinion is that it’s a fifty fifty thing. It either ends well or doesn’t.

Dating online has made it a lot easier for workaholics to also have an opportunity to meet a lovely man or woman without having to sit at the bar or on the streets waiting for a good looking one to come along, you no longer need to wait forever to be hooked up by a friend or family.

You don’t have to worry about being shy or confident enough to approach anyone. The internet does that for you. Just by putting up your profile, two or three good looking pictures and optimistic wordings before you start sending out icebreakers. Otherwise you might not get as many positive responses.

A lot of people question the safety of dating online. Disadvantages of online dating which can be averted are as follows:

1. Use of fake pictures on the profile: What you need to do is to always search for the opposite sex with different pictures with same face on it. Once you see a profile with one picture, ‘ X’ it and move to another one until you find the one that meets your requirements.

2. They might not be who they say they are: Ask as many questions as possible, ask the same questions again, they will surely forget the lies they told at one point or the other but give space of time and days or weeks before you ask the questions again. Once you figure out that they are aren’t who they said they are, it’s easier for you to move on because you haven’t met them in the physical, just delete their profile and that’s it.

3. They try to exploit you: Be very patient in online dating, don’t rush into having emotional feelings for someone you haven’t met yet. Get to know the persons background and if possible contact someone that you know very well who might be close to his or her location so that they can do some findings on the person. Once they get used to chatting with you and start demanding for money. Pleeeaaasseeee RUN!!! That’s all I have to write about this point.

I recommend looking at online dating as a very sophisticated means of dating that introduces you to potential matches. After finding the one you like and is OK in all sphere, then please move offline and start with the next stage of falling in love, go to cinemas, party with friends and you won’t live to regret it.

 

Learning The Act of Love

Blossoming into the Eden

Taking you into paradise

Where you do not know

No full understanding

Expectations of the union

I will teach you

You will learn gradually

What tickles my heart

What your love does to me

How to turn it into fulfillment

I will teach you

Your eyes I adore

They speak into my heart

Love me they say

I will learn to fulfill your desires

 I will love you with my life.

 

Five and Ten is Fifty

Ten things you should do before you die

Fall in love until it can be seen on your forehead

Publish a book and make sure it’s popular

Live naked in your house for five days

Have a glamorous party for friends and family

Go for a hike in the caves

Travel to the moon

Write your will

Visit the orphanage and contribute a great deal to them

Sponsor a child’s education

Resist every bad temptation for One month

 

Five animals you should raise before you are fifty

A hen

Goat

Monkey

Horse

Fish

Handling Relationships With Different Religious Beliefs

I received an email from a lady who was in despair need of an answer to her confused state of mind, and I decided to post the content on my blog due to the sensitivity of it. This is one out of few mails I have received regarding religious beliefs, but this sounded peculiar to me which is why I decided to adjust a few of the texts and publish it. Here it goes:

I have known this guy for almost five months, he asked me out but I never took him seriously because of our religious differences. I am a christian and worship in a Pentecostal church, he is from a Muslim background and converted to Christianity but worships in the spiritualist church.

My fear is that I don’t understand their belief system as my parents are strict Pentecostals, no one I know in my has ever worshiped in such a church. I am also someone that believes a lot in God and want to make heaven, I just don’t understand the beliefs of his church. I like his personality and would love to have a relationship with him, he wants to be committed to me but I have not given him the opportunity because I don’t know where it would lead to. I discussed my fears with him and he made me understand that he won’t force me to attend his church even though at some point in time, he would love it if I do. He also said his church is a Christ believing church as well.

My question is what would my family say about this? What if it ends in marriage which I know I would love to happen? Where would our kids be baptized? I don’t know how my mind would start to operate. I need to know here different opinions while I also pray about this. Do I go further in dating him and getting to know him more or I should just forget about going into this affair with him even though I think about him almost every night and he seems to be the only man I have ever felt comfortable with in my life.

My own take on this is once I’m in love, the rest is history. We humans are different, and moreover it’s indeed sensitive that’s why Your kind comments and suggestions are welcome.

Thank you.

 

 

Sunday Love Inspiration

I love myself, so I’m dedicating today to ME! ME! ME! I love everyone too but I need time for me. Whatever you do today, be happy, love yourself, give no one the responsibility of loving you. Happiness starts with you, then every other thing falls into place. Happy Sunday to everyone out there.

I am grateful to have been loved and to be loved now and to be able to love, because that liberates.

Love liberates. It doesn’t just hold – that’s ego.

love liberates. It doesn’t bind.

Love says, ‘I love you’re in China. I love if you are across town. I love you if you are in Harlem. I love you. I would like to be near you. I’d like to have your arms around me. I’d like to hear your voice in my ear. But that’s not possible now, so I love you -Maya Angelou

 

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