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Planning Your Outfit For A first Date

It’s perfectly natural when we try our very best to look good on our first date, appearing desperate is something we never want to experience. As hard as it may seem all you need to achieve is to look sexy, beautiful, pleasant, alluring, not only that, confidence is the chief factor of a successful first date. On the other hand, men simply want to look handsome, confident and just be the man that proves a point.

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I find it quite interesting when the guy calls the lady to set up the first date, she gets all excited to the extent that her line of reasoning starts getting awkward, not only that, the preparation stage turns cumbersome, in the sense that, it takes forever for a woman to decide what she wants to wear to impress the man. Women just crave attention that sometimes makes them end up looking overdressed, thereby turning into something I don’t even want to describe. I must say that I’ve found myself in that situation too.

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Men on the other hand usually take lesser time to dress and the outcome is usually impressive. When we are planning our outfit for the first date there are some certain facts to consider, Whatever we chose to wear on our first date must be something we feel comfortable in, should be clean, not too colorful, most importantly have to generate confidence, In addition to that, we don’t want our first date to be the last.

Good luck on your first date.

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Making the FIRST MOVE on a Man

First you need to understand the term “first move”; It can be something as small as a woman simply making an eye contact with a man, giving him a smile, or a simple hello; Opening the doors of communication and signalling to him that she is open to be approached or have a descent conversation. Have you ladies ever contemplated making the first move on a man?

Don’t get me wrong, I still believe that tradition that men should make the first move, when it come s to the courtship process- there are times when a woman need to take the “bull by the horn,” give him a little push in order to set the cycle in motion.

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Trust me it fascinates men when the other sex makes a little push. In modern day dating, it has become acceptable for a woman to make that move, so KICK IT ON GIRL. You never know the guy out there dying to meet you or just trying to say a simple hello to you but doesn’t know how to make the move. Open the door for him and allow him to walk through it.

Men sometimes have this flutter in their chest while trying to approach a woman, “Is she with a man?” “will she give me an attitude?” “will she give me a kick?” All this doubts crossing through a man’s mind doesn’t show that they have a low esteem of themselves, it could only be that they are just on the reserved side or they are the shy type, moreover some of them actually don’t like taking no for an answer, it cripples their ego. We all know how men feel about this EGO THING, so don’t even be bothered. That’s just men!!

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Life is something that we need to take control of in order to create the situations and outcomes that we want. If you sit on the sidelines and wait for prince charming to come and ask you for a dance, you leave time frame in his hands, topping it all up, he might never make that move.

Everything you’ve always wanted is right outside of your comfort zone. All you need is to step outside of it and begin creating the life you want. It won’t be as bad as you think it would be, even if the guy isn’t attracted to you, chances are he will be respectful to you.

A woman who approaches a man stands out; one can determine a few things about her. Her boldness tells that she’s confident, spontaneous, brave, and thinks outside the box.

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Challenge yourself today or tomorrow, that guy you are sure you really like and would love to spend some time with, why not just develop the confidence, give him a sweet smile,but don’t flirt with him just yet, remember men can be judgmental sometimes. Hmm!

A few hints on steps to take in making the FIRST MOVE:

  • Work on your confidence level. Don’t be too forward, don’t be intimate with him, that could be dangerous at the onset, keep your emotions intact and far away, most of all avoiding saying ” I love you.”
  • Get to know him very well, what his likes and dislikes are, be sure about him but remember don’t flirt with him just yet. If you have concluded that he’s worth your attention, then move on to the next level.
  • Which is to let him know you exist by giving him soft sweet smiles once in a while, once you discover that you are at a few distance apart from each other, and he looks at you once in a while, it signifies he probably likes you. Start conversations with him on topics you might have found out he loves to talk about.
  • If your conversations are going on smoothly then, let him invite you out, if he doesn’t-You make the move; invite him out!! This is where your confidence and patience level is measured. The least that can happen is for him to turn your offer down, which I doubt would happen.
  • Allow the friendship to develop, be natural, let him feel free around you. Avoid getting obsessed with him while waiting!
  • Be patient- wait for him to take the final step of asking you to have a relationship with him, while waiting, ensure it’s not for too long.

Whatever happens next, just believe in yourself….

 

 

Boost Your Self Confidence

I have heard of several instances where self esteem is a problem for so many, it has degenerated to a level so high in the life of an individual that they feel they can’t overcome it. It advances with them to adulthood to the extent that some people find it so hard to perform well in interviews, it makes some people avoid socializing, some find it so difficult to do things that will make them happy-because they think they will never be approved of.

It usually arises from early growth, where parents are being overprotective of the child; criticism is also an element, when a child is being pushed to hard, it makes him loose confidence, parents who criticize their children over every little detail or failure are not only killing their confidence but are also crippling their spirit.We as humans will take cognisance of it and decide to use it then bullying sets in.This can only maim an individual development, self esteem, self knowledge and growth. We don’t want this to happen to any of our loved one…

If you grew up this way, it’s never too late to get out of that bondage, that is what is seems to be…Think positive, be optimistic, never allow criticism get to you. People can’t bring you down, they can only try. Don’t allow your feelings be toyed with, you are the determinant of how people treat you, live your heart into their hands, then you are already under their control for manipulation.

Enhancing your self esteem will pave way in facing challenges, it helps you to meet the right people in the right social gathering, It helps you in development of your writing skills and not giving up in what you believe in no matter how many times you fail at it. You want to blog? You want to publish a book? You want to sing? Why not just take one step of confidence today and try whatever is bugging your mind and giving you sleepless nights as long as its’ not a bad thing…

How do you build self confidence? Say to yourself everyday,”I will try harder today, I will be confident today.” Be bold, take informed risks, challenge yourself, love yourself, always remind yourself that you want to succeed at whatever you do but you can only achieve it through confidence. Don’t be too hard on yourself.

Today is Monday! Be confident in achieving success at whatever you will embark on.

Xoxo