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Should We Have Values To Live By

Should we have values to live by?

Values are things we believe are important to us and will do a lot to maintain as part of our daily lives in respect to culture, family, work, religion, habits e.t.c

Do you have values; Good question isn’t it? A lot of us don’t know if we have values much less living by one. Some organisations have one and I bet most of their staff don’t understand it. I have looked around me for years and seen that a large percentage of humans all over the world have no values they live by, some are aware but just don’t give it any thought as to how it will reflect and improve their life so they forego it.

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Should we have values to live by

There are so many values to live by as mentioned above and much more, let’s start by picking one of them and see the results, call it a test and see if you pass.

Should we have values to live by? My answer is a big yes. Why? Growth, awareness, love, standard, measurement of success, corrective measures. Having one or two helps us have all these.

What are some of the values I live by? Family value is one thing I don’t take too easily, it’s very important to me, it contributes to growth and love in my life, I can’t live without family values. My cultural values is placed highly too, I can’t forget who I am and where I’m from, it keeps me focused and level headed.

Should we have values to live by?

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Cure For Suicide

I have often wondered why people commit suicide but I think what we should be more worried about is the cure…

This can happen to anyone and it starts from depression. I don’t have the cure to suicide, we don’t have the cure to suicide but we can prevent it. HOW?

Anthony Bourdain was found dead in apparent suicide, it’s a very sad news because just a couple of days ago Kate Spade also committed suicide. These two individual are very talented people whom God created to make a statement in the world through the gifts he endowed them with.

May their souls rest in peace and may the good lord strengthen their family at this period of mourning.

I have thought about suicide once and I informed the world indirectly but guess what? My loved ones detected immediately and called me in seconds, they prayed for me and my brother left his family to stay with me, they kept close contact with me because they realised I had gone weak from being one of the strongest in the family….

I myself needed attention. Anyone can go crazy at anytime.

I’m stronger today. Let’s love, be loved and say no to depression and suicide.

Good Girl Turns Bad

The good girl only wants to be happy

She was created soft and to just be herself

With an open mind, she sees the world

As a place to love, share, care and live

To bring beauty into the space and spice it up

But of course she gets muddled up

Good girl turn baf

Back in the days when love and respect existed, there was happiness although very few heartbreaks here and there, probably due to family issues.

Good girls were everywhere for the taking to be baptised into marriage and marital life had a path, not so rosy sometimes but it existed.

But now see what we have; all girls have turned bad except a few of us…haha yes I’m one of them good girls…

Dating and marital life is now easily compared to hell in most cases.

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Why have they turned bad?

Heartbreak, denial, lies, deception, rejection, sexual harassment at work place, home, name it…

Turned the light into darkness

Dampening their souls

They cry hard when alone

Afraid to live again, to face the world

Hard to love again but to pretend and hurt more.

Do I blame them? NO!! But…

Let’s not allow bitterness creep into our soul..each time we fall, we must rise again to be stronger and wiser so that the generation of good girls that once existed can be back again to retain sunshine- eddaz

When Is The Right Time To Introduce My Boyfriend

It bugs me each time I meet a new guy in my life and then he says to me ‘I would like to know some of your friends or siblings’…Men are known for their hmmm๐Ÿ˜“ funny attitudes especially in the dating field.

It might also be the other way round…They want to meet him๐Ÿ˜“๐Ÿ˜“ and then he turns out to be a moron…

When do i introduce my boyfriend

What if I introduce him to my innermost world of friends or family today and he jilts me tomorrow๐Ÿ˜ฎ how would my loved ones feel? They are usually very sensitive about what goes on in our life. Is it timely?

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What do I say to them? And then the next guy comes along and then another and another..What the hell??

Kindly share your opinion on the right time to introduce my boyfriend…

 

Valentine’s Day Expectations

I always believe Valentine’s day shouldn’t be restricted to being celebrated in a day February 14th. It’s a day I presume should be celebrated everyday. It’s a day celebrated in love and could be with anyone not just your lover and must not be restricted to sex๐Ÿ˜“๐Ÿ˜“ just as some are anticipating.

Valentine's Day Expectations

To my own knowledge, today should be celebrated specially with the people we have been too busy to express our love to such as spending time with the poor and feeding them, donating to the orphans, friends we haven’t heard from in a while should be called and greeted, family members far away can be sent one or two surprise gifts or called on phone to show love. Show love to the elderly ones, send flowers to the sick ones.

Valentine's Day Expectations

My previous Valentine’s day was spent in the office all day..working..I barely remembered what day it was.When I was a lot younger, due to my naivety I used to think Valentine’s day was for adults and couples only, which made me eager to grow fast, little did I know back then…

Valentine's Day Expectations

As I grew older I began to understand better and placed less significance on that day because I realised I could celebrate it everyday but acknowledged that It needed more emphacies on February 14th and in a different way.

 

How has your previous Valentine’s day been and what are your expectations for today’s celebration?

Today is my nephew’s birthday so I sure will share the love with him..

Happy Valentines Day to everyone out there๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ž๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽˆ

Heard- The Sound Of Music

I believe lots of people have heard and watched the sound of music. It was my favourite romance movie when I was a lot younger which actually got me hooked on it and I ended up watching it a couple of times I can no longer count. The musical romance movie was released back in 1965 and the main actress Maria acted by Julie Andrews was someone I fell in love with and I had a crush on the Austrian widower Von Trapp originally named Christopher Plummer.

If you haven’t watched this movie, please and please you need to get it somehow…It’s the best romance movie I know at the moment. I don’t want to tell too much about it now but….Maria became the governess of the Von Trapp family of Seven kids and along the line she fell in love with their dad the handsome captain…Hmm who wouldn’t?

Maria later got confused about the love thing and tried to go back being a nun๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ but was tutored briefly on the things of the heart by Mother Abess meanwhile the other nuns considered Maria as someone they didn’t know what to do with, I guess she was quite a naughty one at the Abbey.

It’s quite a long movie but a very interesting one you would not want to miss any of the act. The music I can still single some till date…

Love can be found in places we don’t expect…Can one ever be ready for it? What do you do when it happens?

What Would You Do With Chaos Love

Do you know what it feels like when love goes chaos? Hmm. I bet you will never love the same way again OR you will rather not love anymore. Love feels good, it’s right, it’s bound to happen but what’s the significance of it when it leads to destruction, confusion and then hatred. Then you say to yourself, perhaps I shouldn’t have threaded on that ground.

What will you do with chaos loveHowever bizarre love turns, how you handle it is paramount. What do you do with love that starts to turn bitter from sweet? Why is it swinging to the wrong side? When did it start to go paranoid? Where did it go unethical? These are some of the questions you should ask yourself if you want to turn your bitter love around or better still walk away. Thankfully we have choices to be made.

You want to try this steps to make your love sweet again?

  • Start learning to appreciate your partner in terms of efforts in career, finances and care for family.
  • Acknowledge the fact that your partner needs time to be alone sometimes, maybe to have fun with friends, go on trips alone to recover from work stress or time to regain balance in life.
  • Revitalize the love that once existed by changing your wardrobe, wear more sexy clothes, act more like a lioness in bed, be seductive and touch him once in a while in his sensitive parts.
  • Surprise her with gifts, invite her out for occasions or dinner.
  • Say nice things to your partner, try as much as possible to make eye contacts with her. Remember you have a choice. Make a good one.

Would you walk away from love that turned bitter OR would you stay back to make it desirous once more and sweeter than before?

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Appreciate Every Tiny Favour

Learning to appreciate every favour that comes our way is important in life. Showing gratitude for every tiny privilege granted us goes a long way.

“Don’t forget a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated”- H. Jackson Brown

Many of us don’t know how to do this; I feel biased when I come across people that aren’t grateful of this little opportunities they have or help they get from friends or families. It’s actually a bad habit. We shouldn’t wait till we loose this people ย before we start to acknowledge them.

AppreciateLet’s learn to appreciate out parents, friends, colleagues, neighbours, readers, business partners, customers, children, loved ones, workers, siblings, leaders, and the fact is everyone deserves to be appreciated for their kindness to us.

“Not everyone will appreciate what you do for them. You have to figure out who’s worth your kindness and who’s just taking advantage”- Unknown

Some people appreciate favours but when it’s time to help, they decline, forgetting they were once also helped. Helping others is a great way of showing appreciation. It gives you this feeling of contentment, joy and fulfillment.

Thanks for reading๐Ÿ’

Day 2-Three Day Quote Challenge

This is the second day of the challenge in which I was nominated byย Southern By Design. My first quote is on trust. This is built over time. In this generation, trust has being a real big time issue. No one trusts nobody, family members don’t trust each other anymore, business partners, and even some of us don’t trust ourselves. If you want to be trusted, it starts with you.

Rules for the quote challenge

  1. Thank the blogger who nominated you.
  2. Post 1-3 quotes a day for 3 consecutive days.
  3. Nominate 3 bloggers each day.

1st Quote by Zig Ziglar

If people like you, they’ll listen to you, But if they trust you, they’ll do business with you.

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2nd Quote by Ernest Hemingway

The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.

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3rd quote

Give but don’t allow yourself to be used. Love but don’t allow your heart to be abused. Trust but don’t be naive.

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Today I will nominate:

  1. Del
  2. Sharlaw
  3. Narcmagnet69x96

Child birth Pressure Is Destroying My Marriage

I actually thought deciding to go into marriage and leave the singles club means ’till death do us apart’ I also thought a man quitting bachelorhood meant he is ready for the storms preparing to come, whether it’s a good or bad one. Don’t get me wrong marriage is good but comes with its challenges, ask any married couple and they will bear me witness.

I got a visit from a male friend who apparently had to step out of his home for a party without his wife and head to my place afterwards for an advice, but of course his wife knew he was up to something because he has been doing a lot of that recently just to have excuses to be away from the wife and 4 months old baby.

Here it is: I never knew childbirth would have such an outcome on me; honestly I love my wife but I just don’t know what to do any longer. The baby’s demand for everything is taking its toll on me and my marriage. I can’t sleep at night anymore because of his wailing every night, and the nature of my job requires total concentration. Now I resume at work feeling miserable like my life is over.

I’m so sick and tired of all this pressure on my Life. People said the child will grow out of it as soon as he is older, but honestly I don’t believe it because I think he willย get demanding as he grows older. I never knew it was going to be like this. I feel for my wife too, she always has to stay awake every night to tend to the baby, he wants to be in our arms at all time, he needs to suck the breast like every 15 to 30 minutes, his diaper needs to be changed several times, I am so out of finances buying everything just for one baby. Will it always be like this? I don’t know for how long I can bear this.

Pressure from Childbirth is Destroying My Marriage

My wife sadly has discovered the effect on me and I feel guilty but I can’t help it, I assist a lot too, and that’s the exact reason why I’m dead fed up. Please what do I do?

He narrated his deep heartfelt feeling of the pressure and I could only feel sympathy for him because he obviously didn’t realise that there was still more yet to come, he is just about 2 years into the marriage.

Of course I gave him my advice since it was too late for me to give him a Pre-baby counselling which I feel every intending couples strongly need to go for.

“Love your wife, your baby, and be supportive. No matter how hard it may seem. She will always be your soulmate and mother of your children. The baby was brought into this world by you and her, he knows nothing other than what you teach him and the care you give him, please take care f him, he trusts you and looks up to you for every single thing in his life. Don’t make up any excuses to neglect your family, be strong, be a man, learn to be strong for them.

Your kind comments and suggestions are highly welcome.

Thank you.

Xoxoxo