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How Do I Overcome Pain Of Rejection

I know how it feels to be rejected because it’s like being stabbed. The pain is so intense; you feel the urge to close your eyes and end it right there. I’ve been turned down many times in my life, in all areas such as in relationships, educational affairs, friendship…. name it. Not that they hated me but life has a way of pushing us around to mold us together to become stronger, independent, upright and be who we should be.

The pain of rejection is something we have all felt on many occasions, no matter how much we try to avoid it, trust me it’s inevitable and then we ask ‘why me’??

We feel rejected when we underestimate ourselves,

Have high expectations from people,

Have low esteem and fear criticism…

All this is normal but when it keeps going on in a vicious circle, then I would say “that’s bad for your health.” No one is built in perfection but everyone has the space to accept good, sensible correction to be a better person.

To overcome the pain of rejection is one of the most difficult things to do but I conquered it and there’s been no turning back. I’ve discovered the freedom of expression it brings, confidence in love affairs, the charisma that attracts genuine people and success.

How do I overcome pain of rejection

In a short sentence, to overcome the pain of rejection and flee from it – DEFINE WHO YOU ARE…

Caring about what people think of you is useless.

Most people don’t even know what they think of themselves.

– Sonya Teclai

 

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How Not To Stay Single

I published a post on my blog two weeks ago on “Why Men Stay Single,” hence based on one of my dear readers who asked me to write on this topic, “How not to stay single,” here we go. But note, I’m not a relationship expert, everything I write on my blog based on relationships, love, and marriage is of my opinion, research, and true life experiences.

It’s a state of mind when you panic about being single, it should be considered as a learning period; Once you accept the position in your life, it will surprise you how other things will fall into place, things you never expected nor planned. Getting married or entering a long-term relationship is not the end to your struggles… believe me; It’s an eye-opener and another learning ground. But the good news is that if you meet the right person who is willing to travel on the same path – you will be able to rock the boat together regardless of the storms…

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If you don’t want to stay single, consider the following…

-Accept that you are single.

-Search your heart since no one is listening to your thoughts and ask yourself if you are ready for a relationship.

-If you feel insecure or have biased feelings about dating but unwilling to stay single, you might need to make some visits to your therapy.

-Stay happy and take time to discover yourself.

-You will make mistakes but never be hard on yourself.

-Acknowledge that no one is perfect.

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-Don’t be selective of men or women to date.

-Build your confidence, work on your charisma, be real.

-Always put yourself together.

-Don’t rush into any relationship because you don’t want to stay single.

-Don’t dwell on the past but look forward to the future with joy on the horizon.

-Don’t make a list of what the ideal partner should be but open your heart.

-Prepare yourself for agreements, disagreements, love, long-term commitment and whatever you might encounter when you start dating.

-Be ready to let go, there will be times you must sacrifice your desires to make your partner happy.

When your ‘OWN’ partner comes, nothing can stop you from being together… NOTHING

If the relationship doesn’t work out, move on and stay happy, never lose confidence in yourself because it means that you and the person aren’t meant to be together.

Feel free to share your opinions on how not to stay single.

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Release The Dark Emotions

You feel anger, frustration and have this gruesome feeling at the pit of your stomach all because your partner did something or keeps doing things you feel you can’t forgive them for.

It’s best to release all the dark and cooked up emotions in a way you can control without letting it get out of hand, if not it will build up into hatred and then a complete disaster.

Would You Show Love Or Say It

It’s usually a confusing state of mind when women and men in relationships don’t know if to tell their partner they are in love with them or just simply keep showing it without having to say it out.

Some have had sad experiences where when they start saying “I love you” to their partner is actually the stage when the partner starts messing up or taking their feelings for granted because it now sounds like song to their ears.

Remember some of us get tired of even very interesting songs over time while others probably don’t, which is very rare.

Which would you rather do?

•Say it often to your partner ” I love you”?

•Just simply keep showing the love and affection without saying it?

•Do both but how often?

 

Stab Those Rules To Successful Relationships

I’ve often wondered if there are actually rules to a successful relationship as been told by some relationship experts and so on. What I’m trying to say here is this day to day rules been proposed by them…do they still work?

Has anyone applied some of this rules to their relationships recently and have come out with a successful love affair that has led to lasting relationship or marriag?

However my opinion in retrospect to this rules is that it cannot be 100 percent applied to everyone because a lot of us are wierd especially now that society has gone Gaga….

Stab those rules to Successful Relationships

Note….a lot of us are wierd and society has gone Gaga…. So please don’t be deceived.

Sitting and staring into the face of this rules or memorizing them? Haha…it’s best you study your partner and follow your heart….

You either win or loose!!

The Man Behind The Curtain

He smiles when it rains love

Glows when the moon sets

Roars like the king of the jungle when I’m hurt

Keeps me in the comfort of his arms….

I see a man sitting in the dead of the night, staring hard…

Do I really know the man behind the curtain?

Have you ever really sat down to think about your partner, who he really is, what goes on in that tiny mind of his. What does he do when you aren’t looking? Is he really generally stable?

Good question…

Several of us have said I trust my partner, we communicate very well…that is very good, trust is one of the building blocks of a good relationship and communication is essential be it courtship or marriage, but have an open mind, we are all human; in the process of doing both and giving space know that the devil exist in us to act just as their is goodness in us. Sometimes we are weak but pretend to be strong…

Do you really know the man behind the curtain?

Whoever is behind the curtain of your love life. Be attentive- eddaz.

 

 

 

Getting Overworked In A Relationship

People meet each other, some develop attractions and start dating while others don’t but still go ahead onto that path, but realistically do we even really know what we want to achieve from this affair…Or are we just into the dating game to have fun and then move onto the next?

We eventually get overworked in them when we don’t face the facts…Take note of the following before going into a relationship so as to avoid hassles, heartbreak, depression and the likes…

1. Be sincere with yourself, knowing why you want to go into the relationship, what you aim to contribute and achieve.

2. Ensure you and your dating partner are on the same path. This is very essential as it makes the relationship more enjoyable and stressfree.

3. Never let your hopes be high, have a free mind and have fun as desired.

4. Cut down on your demands, it makes you appear desperate when you don’t.

5. Be friends, get to know each other before you start the relationship, ensure it’s someone you can treat like gold and do same to you.

6. While you are still single, prepare yourself, mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually and domestically because oh boy…You will need those tools.

Your aim is to have a relationship that leads to marriage?

When God knows you are ready for the responsibility of commitment, he will reveal the right person under the right circumstances- thesoul doctor.

 

Be a blessing to that person you go into a relationship with; not a heartbreaker; not a demon; not a bad story…- eddaz

 

Why Women Should Not Cling Unto Their Men

Dated back to ages women have always being known to be the more demanding sex, more emotionally attached in body and soul…Women are naturally emotionally charged while men are sexually charged.

Why women should not cling to their men

Men would rather think with their….down there…While women think with the brains; this is a natural phenomenon which equals easily making women attached to the man they have strong feelings for. Men too have feelings but not as equal to that of the other sex. Clinging to men is enhanced when a woman is in love especially once she gets intimate with him…Does that mean women shouldn’t get involved in sex with men they love? Clinging to men simply can be described when a woman despises seeing her man staring at a woman, when he’s talking with another lady, he’s hanging out with friends, he does not call her 24/7, she wants to be with him most times or at all times if possible…Maybe some men like this but a greater percentage of them honestly detest this attitude.

Why women should not cling to men

Sex is strong, soul binding and if not careful can make women start attaching sentiments to the relationship which results to clinging onto the man. Clinging to men is not only unhealthy but can also make one lose out in the relationship by making men feel choked up and then run for their life, it makes women appear insecure. Men love freedom, they love sexy women that know what they are out there for. As women we need to be independent, strong, focused, aim to achieve the best and be at the upper hand of a relationship. Women have got the brains, learn to use them to your own advantage. Women have got the power to have whatever they wish to have only when used with the will power bestowed on us.

Women appear sexier when not clingy, more beautiful they become because they get all the attention which radiates from their heart. Women become clingy once they detect a man losing focus on them…Don’t get me wrong, I know how painful this can feel but note that a man that loves and respects you will always come back for you, if a man walks out on you, let it be…Things will surely work out in your own favour…This also applies to a man in a relationship with a woman…

 

We Will Cross The Bridge

Love, life, relationships, career can be tough sometimes but consistency with faith and hard work will get us through, like is always been said, “we shall cross the bridge when we get there.”

I have crossed a lot of it and still have lots of bridges to travel across in achieving greatness. This week has been tough I must say. The best experience I encountered was that I crossed that narrow thing successfully and I can smile all the way.

My first Ebook will be out in November (Unveil The Eagle)😍. It hasn’t been so easy writing it, getting it ready to be published coupled with demands from my daily career, family, and other responsibilities. However I love writing, it’s been great, fulfilling and the best thing in my life. I will start working on the second book as soon as this is finally out.

We shall all cross the bridge when it’s time, regardless of life’s struggle for survival💞💝

The Artificial Life

Live naturally

Love naturally

Eat naturally

Embrace nature.

I love the natural things of life; it gives one this sense of belonging, peace and adaptability. Nowadays we have lots of artificial things around us such as artificial hair, flowers, make up kits, food condiments, even artificial love.

All these are as a result of technology advancements. Are these innovations beneficial to the human lives? What are the positive and negative effects? The benefits are good; the lists amounts to being successful as determined by the scientists. The detriments are disastrous with no remedy or very little one and reduced life.

Let’s encourage the natural form of living, don’t get me wrong. Not that we should stop technology but let’s take into cognisance it’s effects on the human life, relationships, plants and animal existence.