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How Do I Overcome Pain Of Rejection

September 19, 2018 eddaz 25 Comments

I know how it feels to be rejected because it’s like being stabbed. The pain is so intense; you feel the urge to close your eyes and end it right there. I’ve been turned down many times in my life, in all areas such as in relationships, educational affairs, friendship…. name it. Not that they hated me but life has a way of pushing us around to mold us together to become stronger, independent, upright and be who we should be.

The pain of rejection is something we have all felt on many occasions, no matter how much we try to avoid it, trust me it’s inevitable and then we ask ‘why me’??

We feel rejected when we underestimate ourselves,

Have high expectations from people,

Have low esteem and fear criticism…

All this is normal but when it keeps going on in a vicious circle, then I would say “that’s bad for your health.” No one is built in perfection but everyone has the space to accept good, sensible correction to be a better person.

To overcome the pain of rejection is one of the most difficult things to do but I conquered it and there’s been no turning back. I’ve discovered the freedom of expression it brings, confidence in love affairs, the charisma that attracts genuine people and success.

In a short sentence, to overcome the pain of rejection and flee from it – DEFINE WHO YOU ARE…

Caring about what people think of you is useless.

Most people don’t even know what they think of themselves.

– Sonya Teclai

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How Not To Stay Single

August 28, 2018 eddaz 25 Comments

I published a post on my blog two weeks ago on “Why Men Stay Single,” hence based on one of my dear readers who asked me to write on this topic, “How not to stay single,” here we go. But note, I’m not a relationship expert, everything I write on my blog based on relationships, love, and marriage is of my opinion, research, and true life experiences.

It’s a state of mind when you panic about being single, it should be considered as a learning period; Once you accept the position in your life, it will surprise you how other things will fall into place, things you never expected nor planned. Getting married or entering a long-term relationship is not the end to your struggles… believe me; It’s an eye-opener and another learning ground. But the good news is that if you meet the right person who is willing to travel on the same path – you will be able to rock the boat together regardless of the storms…

If you don’t want to stay single, consider the following…

-Accept that you are single.

-Search your heart since no one is listening to your thoughts and ask yourself if you are ready for a relationship.

-If you feel insecure or have biased feelings about dating but unwilling to stay single, you might need to make some visits to your therapy.

-Stay happy and take time to discover yourself.

-You will make mistakes but never be hard on yourself.

-Acknowledge that no one is perfect.

-Don’t be selective of men or women to date.

-Build your confidence, work on your charisma, be real.

-Always put yourself together.

-Don’t rush into any relationship because you don’t want to stay single.

-Don’t dwell on the past but look forward to the future with joy on the horizon.

-Don’t make a list of what the ideal partner should be but open your heart.

-Prepare yourself for agreements, disagreements, love, long-term commitment and whatever you might encounter when you start dating.

-Be ready to let go, there will be times you must sacrifice your desires to make your partner happy.

When your ‘OWN’ partner comes, nothing can stop you from being together… NOTHING…

If the relationship doesn’t work out, move on and stay happy, never lose confidence in yourself because it means that you and the person aren’t meant to be together.

Feel free to share your opinions on how not to stay single.

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Release The Dark Emotions

August 8, 2018 eddaz 5 Comments

You feel anger, frustration and have this gruesome feeling at the pit of your stomach all because your partner did something or keeps doing things you feel you can’t forgive them for.

It’s best to release all the dark and cooked up emotions in a way you can control without letting it get out of hand, if not it will build up into hatred and then a complete disaster.

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Would You Show Love Or Say It

August 28, 2017 eddaz 23 Comments

It’s usually a confusing state of mind when women and men in relationships don’t know if to tell their partner they are in love with them or just simply keep showing it without having to say it out.

Some have had sad experiences where when they start saying “I love you” to their partner is actually the stage when the partner starts messing up or taking their feelings for granted because it now sounds like song to their ears.

Remember some of us get tired of even very interesting songs over time while others probably don’t, which is very rare.

Which would you rather do?

•Say it often to your partner ” I love you”?

•Just simply keep showing the love and affection without saying it?

•Do both but how often?

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Stab Those Rules To Successful Relationships

August 17, 2017 eddaz 8 Comments

I’ve often wondered if there are actually rules to a successful relationship as been told by some relationship experts and so on. What I’m trying to say here is this day to day rules been proposed by them…do they still work?

Has anyone applied some of this rules to their relationships recently and have come out with a successful love affair that has led to lasting relationship or marriag?

However my opinion in retrospect to this rules is that it cannot be 100 percent applied to everyone because a lot of us are wierd especially now that society has gone Gaga….