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Leslie-Why I have Sex with My Husband Everyday

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It is absolutely normal for women to feel distant, depressed and agitated after giving birth.  Scientifically, the basic element in a marriage is SEX. If you want your husband to act like a man, you need to treat him like a man. Leslie says it all  as written down in this article to share with everyone.

I have sex with my husband everyday, not that I go around telling people but I would love to share my experience with others. My man is the “keep to myself type”, he loves to drink,  playful and once in a while doesn’t miss hanging out with friends.

I had my first child three years after we got married then became distant for a while, complications set in……boredom, depression, name it. The thing is my husband looks fragile but he’s a lion in bed; I discovered after 2 weeks of not touching each other that something was amiss.

I had just finished having my shower, my husband was in the room starring at his laptop as usual, I came out naked which I had not done in a while; I felt wilted, looked like an overripe pawpaw after my childbirth. I was feeling more confident now as I had lost a lot of the fat.

He looked up, gazed at me like a Tiger that wanted to feed on it’s prey, I got into bed with him, we were both silent for about ten minutes  I closed my eyes and started to wonder what was going on in his mind….I could here the clock ticking in my head….. before I could say Jack Robinson, I was in his arms and it was that way everyday like I would never allow a single strand of “hair on my head to be cut off”..

There is something restorative about kissing the boy you love. There are times in his arms when I remember who I am…… Yes, I am a fat mother, cleaner, housekeeper, whatever, but I am also something more, something delightful and completely apart from my roles. I am a woman! Oh sexy lady…..

SEX is so magical, it acts as a cure for so many illness, it helps fight off colds and the flu,  You’d be basically immortal is what I’m trying to say when you do it everyday my friends!

Men are who they are. They need to be stripped off hunger, they need to be acknowledged, and they need to go on that sweet journey everyday. Every night after the kids go to bed is a chance for you to be with that boy that used to make your knees buckle, feel shy….. that boy that you used to find it so hard to wait for his phone calls. Remember resisting his touch back then was like resisting the sweet savor taste of CHOCOLATE.

Theoretically, having sex every single day would make you feel younger, fertile, never get sick, relieves you of stress, basically sex makes you a superhero; make that man feel special, let him know he’s still the boy you have always loved and wanted to spend your life with.

 

 

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No I’m Not Ready For Sex

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There is this notion that when a woman says NO, she actually means YES. It is absolutely impractical when that assumption is believed  and being in existence for too long; When a woman says NO to sex, she sure means NO. Men need to stop this irrational thinking that a woman means yes when she says no. In the actual fact women are known to be the weaker gender, women don’t like being put under too much pressure by men, this makes them give in when a man makes a request.

It’s a connotation of what the man and situation of sphere at that moment that made her voice it out-Why men think women are confused?  NO WAY, you just need to give some space, let go…. allow women be who God has created them to be, then the universe will fall into place. You need to start accepting a woman’s no to whatever the case might be so that things won’t eventually get out of hand at the finish line.

Ask yourself what your objectives are, what are you willing to benefit, why do you want to go that far, what will it profit you, how far will it take you, how long is it going to last for, how does it make you feel, how does she feel about it. Does it determine who you are or stand for….THIS IS FOR THE MEN.

Women it’s time you stop getting scared of saying no and stand your ground. You have to learn to say no without feeling any remorse. Learn to be dignified, take responsibilities, don’t fear for your life, the future will take it’s course by the decisions you make today.

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Here is a scenario where a man tries to seduce woman, then she moves away carefully, he tells the woman ” I would really love to have sex with you.”

Woman tells man, ” No I’m sorry I can’t, I’m not ready.”

Man starts to put pressure on woman thinking her “no” actually means “yes.”

Man- ” You know I love you and want us to be closer.”

Woman- “Really I need some more time to get to know you better.”

Man- “That’s exactly what I’m trying to say, this is the best and quickest way of getting to no ourselves better.”

Woman starts to give in to the pressure. She smiles softly, feeling the IMAGINARY fear in her heart that she might loose him if she insists on saying NO.

Woman- “Alright just this once, I hope you won’t ever cheat on me.”

Man- ” We are both adults, lets have fun, moreover you are my babe and I can’t hurt you.”

Woman finally gives in. Man eventually continues going around feeling convinced women mean yes when they actually mean no.

Things eventually didn’t work out between them, the woman starts to hurt and blames the guy for using her and putting pressure on her. Things turn out bad. If only the man had respected her decision without coaxing her into giving in.

This is just one of the large number of occurrences between women and men that leads to unfortunate scenes, erupting from YES OR NO.

A gentle man will always respect a woman’s boundaries. Learn to say no and mean it without having to give explanations.

Saying yes just to please someone else is not a true yes, it’s not good for them, and it’s not good for you-Kate Northrup

 

 

 

 

 

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Dealing with Heartbreak

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My life is over,“I can’t move on without you”, desperate, confused; You ask yourself, “what have I done wrong?” These are the expression of pains you feel and questions asked when you are heartbroken.

You are not the only one in this TRAUMATIZING situation, it’s part of life experiences, it only strengthens us to face the bigger challenges coming our way, it is non negotiable.

“You can’t keep blaming yourself. Just blame yourself once, and move on.”
- Dan Castellaneta.

The good news is that there’s someone else out there perfectly made for you, to accept you….fat, short, poor, beautiful, attractive, slim-whichever one describes you.

Giving up doesn’t mean you are weak; sometimes it means that you are strong enough to let go, the right person might just be lurking around the corner, waiting for you- eddaz

If you know it makes you feel better to speak to everyone you know about it, then do it but don’t forget to let go of that feeling and move on…..you might fear that things will never be okay– I promise you from the bottom of my heart that they will be okay again. Concentrate your attention on love within you and not on your break up. There is a better life out there with someone else or it might just be a test of faith.

“Sadness flies on the wings of the morning and out of the heart of darkness comes the light.” – Jean Giraudoux.

This goes out to my Facebook friend and other folks out there feeling sad and very empty right now, we have all been through one form of break up or the other and the good news is that it has brought out a better personality from the experience we had and some of us have been the initiator of the heartbreak which has definitely put the victim on the right path, it’s all part of life…

Sometimes two people have to fall apart to realize how much they need to fall back together-Unknown.

I really hope it makes you feel better, stay happy, you will be fine!!!

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Empty Heart of A Woman

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Bewitched by you first time I set my eyes on your glamorous silky skin,

You belong to me now and no other,

You are my other half, my courage, my strength,

Beautiful you are, enchanting to the eyes, sleek black fur.

Always around my bosom in fulfillment,

With my eyes held up high in pride,

A day without you out there is a miserable one.

Everything I’ve always wanted at all time, I found in you.

You give me courage, protection, my best friend,

That’s who you are.

Never a dull moment with you, my heart.

 

And then suddenly you are gone,

Gone with the wind.

Vanished with all that makes me,

They took you away from me, now I’m empty, confused,

What have they done to me?

Where do I go, how do I find you?

The world is wicked, where is the courtesy?

But you are so harmless, a joy to me.

I feel so sick now, lost in the world without you.

 

The truth is a woman’s handbag is her best friend, women feel empty without this, rarely would you find a woman stepping out of her house without it. Her handbag is the power house- eddaz

This post is in response to the one-word prompt. Empty