There is this notion that when a woman says NO, she actually means YES. It is absolutely impractical when that assumption is believed and being in existence for too long; When a woman says NO to sex, she sure means NO. Men need to stop this irrational thinking that a woman means yes when she says no. In the actual fact women are known to be the weaker gender, women don’t like being put under too much pressure by men, this makes them give in when a man makes a request.
It’s a connotation of what the man and situation of sphere at that moment that made her voice it out-Why men think women are confused? NO WAY, you just need to give some space, let go…. allow women be who God has created them to be, then the universe will fall into place. You need to start accepting a woman’s no to whatever the case might be so that things won’t eventually get out of hand at the finish line.
Ask yourself what your objectives are, what are you willing to benefit, why do you want to go that far, what will it profit you, how far will it take you, how long is it going to last for, how does it make you feel, how does she feel about it. Does it determine who you are or stand for….THIS IS FOR THE MEN.
Women it’s time you stop getting scared of saying no and stand your ground. You have to learn to say no without feeling any remorse. Learn to be dignified, take responsibilities, don’t fear for your life, the future will take it’s course by the decisions you make today.
Here is a scenario where a man tries to seduce woman, then she moves away carefully, he tells the woman ” I would really love to have sex with you.”
Woman tells man, ” No I’m sorry I can’t, I’m not ready.”
Man starts to put pressure on woman thinking her “no” actually means “yes.”
Man- ” You know I love you and want us to be closer.”
Woman- “Really I need some more time to get to know you better.”
Man- “That’s exactly what I’m trying to say, this is the best and quickest way of getting to no ourselves better.”
Woman starts to give in to the pressure. She smiles softly, feeling the IMAGINARY fear in her heart that she might loose him if she insists on saying NO.
Woman- “Alright just this once, I hope you won’t ever cheat on me.”
Man- ” We are both adults, lets have fun, moreover you are my babe and I can’t hurt you.”
Woman finally gives in. Man eventually continues going around feeling convinced women mean yes when they actually mean no.
Things eventually didn’t work out between them, the woman starts to hurt and blames the guy for using her and putting pressure on her. Things turn out bad. If only the man had respected her decision without coaxing her into giving in.
This is just one of the large number of occurrences between women and men that leads to unfortunate scenes, erupting from YES OR NO.
A gentle man will always respect a woman’s boundaries. Learn to say no and mean it without having to give explanations.
Saying yes just to please someone else is not a true yes, it’s not good for them, and it’s not good for you-Kate Northrup