How can you be sure the person you want to marry is the one

This is an intriguing question that has been asked severally by the singles that are searching and those about to Wed. As a matter of fact I am not an exception.

I was browsing online when I read this interesting post, I couldn’t let it go untouched in dimensions. It would be of great benefit to lots.

The question– Is there actually ‘The One’😮? Times without number I have come across people asking this questions and my answer has always been wait and see, and I hope no one will have to wait forever to find out. Tim Dawes, Consultant and Trainer for Communications, negotiations and influence analysed his experience supported by The actual algebra of Finding Your Soulmate. Please check it out.

Tim says, first you won’t like either one of them. First they aren’t the one. Accept that there is no no one or at least chances of you finding them is astronomical. So you likely won’t find the one. He said that doesn’t mean the person you marry won’t be special.

This is the story of how Tim found his true love.

He met her at a party after he had sworn off women after the n- teenth time. She walked in and told me she was here to spike the punch, and I was smitten. She was different from any other woman he had ever met or could imagine as a partner. But we didn’t marry for three years, because we both wanted to see how we were going to be treated by the other and I think that’s the key to finding the one for you. Find someone you are both attracted to and who will treat you the way you want to be treated for long term.

According to Tim that is someone who wants to be clean in communications, who wants to work things out immediately rather than carry them around silently. When I saw that in her, I found someone I was knocked out by, who I thought would give me years of closeness. Both are still true today. Twenty six years after.

According to my own opinion, The one is that lady or that man you decide to choose out of everyone, to have faith in, be consistent in working things out with together, the one you will be willing to love and spend the rest of your life with regardless of the challenges. This is the person that strikes your inner being with sunshine.

Your kind comments and contributions are welcome.

 

 

 

 

Base- Lovestruck

Liking the person you are is realistic

Loving you is my life definition

Feeling you is tender in my heart

Soul searching to be matched picked you

The scent of my dream flower radiated from you

Chasing after you was not a base for anything

I courted you regardless of all barriers

If I was blindfolded to chose my heart desire

I would have chosen you beyond all doubts

I would not lay my life down for you

I won’t let you live alone without me

I would take both lives for us to be together forever

Me – You Being Sincere

I love to give all I can, it makes me happy and look younger. I am always sincere to a fault with people, much more to people I care about.

unnamedBut when they trample on my feet, I pick up my bag of sincerity, hang it over my shoulder and bid them goodbye and to some of them, I shove it up there ass.

unnamedAin’t my fault, no way am I going to get myself kicked around because of some low life individual that knows not the definition of love and sincerity. My sincerity used to be to a fault but with age and experience, since I can’t do without it as a person, I got wiser so as to stop getting hurt in the process.

Now my eyes are wide open, my heart tougher, my flair for it stronger, with it comes lots of gifts such as fulfillment, happiness, benefits and favour tagging along after me. I’ve met lots of people with such nature, they aren’t perfect but to an extent you know when yes is yes and no is no.

The secret of success is sincerity- Jean Giraudoux

Blog Awards

I was nominated for the following awards. I’m sorry it took me so long to participate due to time constraints. Finally here I am appreciating the awesome bloggers for nominating me.. THANK YOU. XXXX

2nd Real Neat Award 

real-neat-blog-awardI would like to thank Universe Unexplored  for nominating for this award. Her blog is exceptional and quite interesting. She likes to write anything that captures her attention. Kindly check it out.

Nominees

I would like to nominate the following: Kindly click on the link for instructions in participating. Thank you. Universe unexplored

  1. Paul. E. Bailey’s World
  2. Sasha’s Writings
  3. Vernon
  4. And then there was one

You are not under any obligation to participate, it’s an opportunity to let you know how awesome I find your blogs and would love to read more of your posts.

 

2nd, 3rd and 4th Versatile Blogger Award

The Versatile Blogger AwradI am very grateful to be nominated by Surviving Butterfly, Clumsyandsilly and Covert Novelist for this award. Thank you so much. There blogs are inspiring with lovely poetry and great contents. Please do visit there awesome blogs.

Nominees

I would like to nominate the following blogs: Kindly click on the link for instructions in participating. Thank you. Instructions.

  1. Prateeks Helping Hand
  2. Zenjoe
  3. Scripted Sheet
  4. ItsPh
  5. nanaakosua.com
  6. Betcha didn’t know

You are not under any obligation to participate. I nominated your blogs to appreciate you for inspiring me. You are great bloggers and would love to read more of your blog posts.

 

2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th Blogger Recognition Award

blogger-recognition-awardI would love to thank  Universe unexplored, Luminous feathers , Teenmemoir, And then there was one for this award. I really do appreciate the love and support. There blogs are truly marvelous, inspiring with lot’s of unique and great content.

Nominees

I would like to nominate the following blogs: Kindly click on the link for instructions in participating. Thank you. Instructions.

  1. Zinni
  2. Showers of blessing
  3. Putting my feet in the dirt
  4. World through my eyes
  5. Sharlaw
  6. Noel the poet
  7. teen age song lovers
  8. Melancholicmercy
  9. THISDARNWORLDOFMINE
  10. In love Introvert

Kindly note that you are not obligated to participate than to accept as an appreciation of your great blog that inspires the blog world. Thank you.

4th Sunshine blogger Award

the-sunshine-blogger-awardThank you Clumsyandsilly once again for this award. I’m really grateful for the recognition. Kindly check out her blog of great poetry. I’m fascinated by how mesmerizing her blog posts are.

Nominees

I would like to nominate the following blogs: Kindly click on the link for instructions in participating. Thank you. Clumsyandsilly

  1. rniks24l14
  2. Americaoncoffee
  3. Jerome Danner
  4. Southern by design

Please do note that you are not under any obligation to participate but will be glad if you accept it as an appreciation of your effort and great contents. Thank you.

 

 

Natural Talent Vs Skilled Job -Choose

The general knowledge about life is everyone has to work to earn a living-bare in mind that there are some human that are perpetually lazy and would rather do nothing to survive. Then there is a common misconception where humans find it overly confusing what to do in life to achieve their set goals and objectives. Take it or leave it, we need to survive and to do this we have to do a job which either will come from our natural talent or from our skill sets. I need to crash this down to tiny little bits for better understanding.

Natural talent is not learnt, it simply comes naturally, it doesn’t often require training or education unless if you chose to further polish it until it glows in crystal colours, it is in-depth, you dream it, it is felt, you see it right in front of you, there’s this feeling of joy and fulfillment in talent, sometimes the finances might not come so soon from it like regular monthly salary jobs, but regardless of it, you still find peace in it and there’s greater recognition from it.

Skilled Job is the one acquired over years through series of education, training, skill acquisition, it makes you smarter, gives you monthly financial comfort, you might have passion for it and you might not, you are engaged in it because it pays your bills.

Questions have been asked by so many on figuring their life purpose, which career path to follow, means of survival. You have an option to choose. Once you know your talent, it give room for more options. Do you love your skilled work? You don’t need to search your mind before the answer comes up because you know it. it’s a yes or no. Do you love your talent? It’s same. Which one gives you more satisfaction? which one pays your bills more? which one can you keep doing for the rest of your life with a purpose and never get tried of?

One important thing to know is that your life purpose may not be in what you have skills for, it may not be in what gives you regular inflow of income, it may not even be in what you believe you know how to do very well- yes it may not be what you believe you should do or know how to do very well.

Your life purpose is in what gives you a sense of joy, fulfillment, love, everything in life comes with challenges so as your talent will come with challenges, you life purpose could even be in the regular job if it makes you happy.

What gives you purpose to live, to love, to continue? What gives you this sense of deep bliss, fulfillment? What gives you income to survive, to pay your bills?

I was once asked a question that what if my talent isn’t paying my bills like the regular skilled work, but I love my talent work much more, like it’s my life. My answer was ‘If you love your talent work and it’s not paying your bills yet, alternatively you have a job that pays your bills but you don’t love it enough, then rather choose your job BUT make it temporary and a solution to creating a foundation for your talent. Use the skilled work to generate income for the stability of your talent work, when the timeline is set to further no longer with the office job, you will know and all things will work out, you will have a better knowledge on how to navigate your challenges’

That’s my opinion! If you hate your job so much but have a treasure hidden somewhere, do you think you should exploit it regardless of it’s challenges?

Is it your talent or skilled job? Choose today and be happy!

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