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Natural Talent Vs Skilled Job -Choose

The general knowledge about life is everyone has to work to earn a living-bare in mind that there are some human that are perpetually lazy and would rather do nothing to survive. Then there is a common misconception where humans find it overly confusing what to do in life to achieve their set goals and objectives. Take it or leave it, we need to survive and to do this we have to do a job which either will come from our natural talent or from our skill sets. I need to crash this down to tiny little bits for better understanding.

Natural talent is not learnt, it simply comes naturally, it doesn’t often require training or education unless if you chose to further polish it until it glows in crystal colours, it is in-depth, you dream it, it is felt, you see it right in front of you, there’s this feeling of joy and fulfillment in talent, sometimes the finances might not come so soon from it like regular monthly salary jobs, but regardless of it, you still find peace in it and there’s greater recognition from it.

Skilled Job is the one acquired over years through series of education, training, skill acquisition, it makes you smarter, gives you monthly financial comfort, you might have passion for it and you might not, you are engaged in it because it pays your bills.

Questions have been asked by so many on figuring their life purpose, which career path to follow, means of survival. You have an option to choose. Once you know your talent, it give room for more options. Do you love your skilled work? You don’t need to search your mind before the answer comes up because you know it. it’s a yes or no. Do you love your talent? It’s same. Which one gives you more satisfaction? which one pays your bills more? which one can you keep doing for the rest of your life with a purpose and never get tried of?

One important thing to know is that your life purpose may not be in what you have skills for, it may not be in what gives you regular inflow of income, it may not even be in what you believe you know how to do very well- yes it may not be what you believe you should do or know how to do very well.

Your life purpose is in what gives you a sense of joy, fulfillment, love, everything in life comes with challenges so as your talent will come with challenges, you life purpose could even be in the regular job if it makes you happy.

What gives you purpose to live, to love, to continue? What gives you this sense of deep bliss, fulfillment? What gives you income to survive, to pay your bills?

I was once asked a question that what if my talent isn’t paying my bills like the regular skilled work, but I love my talent work much more, like it’s my life. My answer was ‘If you love your talent work and it’s not paying your bills yet, alternatively you have a job that pays your bills but you don’t love it enough, then rather choose your job BUT make it temporary and a solution to creating a foundation for your talent. Use the skilled work to generate income for the stability of your talent work, when the timeline is set to further no longer with the office job, you will know and all things will work out, you will have a better knowledge on how to navigate your challenges’

That’s my opinion! If you hate your job so much but have a treasure hidden somewhere, do you think you should exploit it regardless of it’s challenges?

Is it your talent or skilled job? Choose today and be happy!

Child birth Pressure Is Destroying My Marriage

I actually thought deciding to go into marriage and leave the singles club means ’till death do us apart’ I also thought a man quitting bachelorhood meant he is ready for the storms preparing to come, whether it’s a good or bad one. Don’t get me wrong marriage is good but comes with its challenges, ask any married couple and they will bear me witness.

I got a visit from a male friend who apparently had to step out of his home for a party without his wife and head to my place afterwards for an advice, but of course his wife knew he was up to something because he has been doing a lot of that recently just to have excuses to be away from the wife and 4 months old baby.

Here it is: I never knew childbirth would have such an outcome on me; honestly I love my wife but I just don’t know what to do any longer. The baby’s demand for everything is taking its toll on me and my marriage. I can’t sleep at night anymore because of his wailing every night, and the nature of my job requires total concentration. Now I resume at work feeling miserable like my life is over.

I’m so sick and tired of all this pressure on my Life. People said the child will grow out of it as soon as he is older, but honestly I don’t believe it because I think he will get demanding as he grows older. I never knew it was going to be like this. I feel for my wife too, she always has to stay awake every night to tend to the baby, he wants to be in our arms at all time, he needs to suck the breast like every 15 to 30 minutes, his diaper needs to be changed several times, I am so out of finances buying everything just for one baby. Will it always be like this? I don’t know for how long I can bear this.

Pressure from Childbirth is Destroying My Marriage

My wife sadly has discovered the effect on me and I feel guilty but I can’t help it, I assist a lot too, and that’s the exact reason why I’m dead fed up. Please what do I do?

He narrated his deep heartfelt feeling of the pressure and I could only feel sympathy for him because he obviously didn’t realise that there was still more yet to come, he is just about 2 years into the marriage.

Of course I gave him my advice since it was too late for me to give him a Pre-baby counselling which I feel every intending couples strongly need to go for.

“Love your wife, your baby, and be supportive. No matter how hard it may seem. She will always be your soulmate and mother of your children. The baby was brought into this world by you and her, he knows nothing other than what you teach him and the care you give him, please take care f him, he trusts you and looks up to you for every single thing in his life. Don’t make up any excuses to neglect your family, be strong, be a man, learn to be strong for them.

Your kind comments and suggestions are highly welcome.

Thank you.


Stop Running From Your Shadow

In response to this week’s discover challenge –  I would like to share with others a piece of advice I received from someone back in high school.

“Stop running from your shadow”. She called me alone to say just that short sentence to me which I pondered on for a pretty long time without actually accepting the truth behind it.

Back in high school I was someone I would say was POPULAR without a particular reason, I just didn’t get it, I never understood the logic behind my popularity. I was a very simple, level headed lady in school, I loved to be alone but unfortunately for me people loved me, they wanted to be friends with me, they wanted me to lead them, guess what I hated all these with a passion 😏, I felt it was too much of a burden for me to carry, all I wanted was my peace, just a few friends, study and go home to my best friend (Television).

It was that way for me all through my years of studying, and until I got my first job, it was still staring right into my face, people wanted to be like me, listen to me, do as I do, seriously I never understood it. Until I met someone else again who told me to just be myself and face my fears. I sat myself down to review the path of life I had lived and was living, I realized that I had been lucky, I would have lost a lot due to my insecurity and shadow fear 😊😊

Now I can face my fears, I can face responsibilities, I realized I didn’t need to be best of friends with all these people but to be attentive to their feelings, now I talk to them, I listen, I don’t mind if they wish to do as I do, I love making people smile. My colleagues love to dress the way I dress, up to my hairstyle, and really I have more confidence now, I encourage them, I give them tips on dating and fashion, I have also learnt not to take things personally due to my emotions. The benefit of all this is that it has opened doors of opportunities for me. My accepting my shadow has promoted me to an upstanding individual. I’m blessed that it wasn’t too late for me to come to terms with it.

My piece of advice based on my pervious experience is to never run from your shadow.