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When He Cares But Not Ready

I’ve sometimes wondered about this type of men that show women they care about them but say it out so blatantly that they aren’t ready for a commitment and then this type of man that wants to get a girl pregnant before he decides to marry her. Life is a wierd dude…. ain’t it? I was at the salon and heard a group of friends talk about this men in their life.

Guy A.

He’s a cool guy, doing fine in his career, responsible, funny, shows support to the girl he cares about, treats her with respect and not a player but not sure if he is ready to get committed by going into a relationship with her, doesn’t even care much about getting sex or not. Beeps her when she goes quiet.

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My opinion is that this guy has a phobia of some sort. But what can a girl do with this type of guy?

Guy B.

He’s got good career, hardworking bad ass guy, good looking, searching for a girl to get pregnant before he decides to get married to her considering the fact that he has tried lots of girls that haven’t been able to give him one. Lol…even though he already has a kid almost out of college.

He cares but not ready

My opinion is that I’m clueless to what this guy really wants. Or maybe he’s just damn old school.

What’s your opinion about this two guys?

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Did I Marry The Wrong Person?

If you have recently found yourself asking the questions, bear in mind that you aren’t alone. Several couples do same. The question is why ask such at this stage of your marriage…

Did you get to know each other very well or was there an oversight? Were you guys true to yourself before eloping? Did the love fail in the middle of the journey? Did you guys loose focus somewhere? Sometimes we see the signs before taking the final decision and sometimes we don’t. Whatever happened; we are just humans.

Did I marry the wrong person?

What went wrong?… Remember when you took the vows, you did it because you were sure he or she was the right person for you until death do you apart…Always know that no one is perfect; don’t become too hard on yourself.

Once you find yourself in this dilemma what should be the next step to take? It’s a very confusing and depressing point in life when this questions start coming up, the feeling of being lost, nowhere to go, not sure who to talk to, not knowing what happened to the lover boy or sweet girl you married…It could be very sad.

One thing is certain…“All hope is not lost”… Everything that has happened in this world has happened before to other people and you won’t be the last it will happen to.

Take heart, pick up the bits and pieces where you left off…Think..It’s either you start afresh since you are already in it or you decide to take the easier step which might be the right or wrong one.

Did I marry the wrong person?

What I would do is to take a leap of faith if I still feel the love deep in my heart as long as it’s not an abusive marriage. To be honest with you if the man is violent with me, then I would definitely take a walk until or if ever he drops the violent nature. Meanwhile I would ensure I stay happy and focused.

It’s surely not an easy stage in life but try to stay strong, talk to trusted ones to free your mind, if you have kids, try to keep them happy and away from whatever drama might be occurring. Whatever you do, make sure you are truly happy doing it.

What would you do in this situation?

How can you be sure the person you want to marry is the one

This is an intriguing question that has been asked severally by the singles that are searching and those about to Wed. As a matter of fact I am not an exception.

I was browsing online when I read this interesting post, I couldn’t let it go untouched in dimensions. It would be of great benefit to lots.

The question– Is there actually ‘The One’ūüėģ? Times without number I have come across people asking this questions and my answer has always been wait and see, and I hope no one will have to wait forever to find out. Tim Dawes, Consultant and Trainer for Communications, negotiations and influence analysed his experience supported by The actual algebra of Finding Your Soulmate. Please check it out.

Tim says, first you won’t like either one of them. First they aren’t the one. Accept that there is no no one or at least chances of you finding them is astronomical. So you likely won’t find the one. He said that doesn’t mean the person you marry won’t be special.

This is the story of how Tim found his true love.

He met her at a party after he had sworn off women after the n- teenth time. She walked in and told me she was here to spike the punch, and I was smitten.¬†She was different from any other woman he had ever met or could imagine as a partner. But we didn’t marry for three years, because we both wanted to see how we were going to be treated by the other and I think that’s the key to finding the one for you. Find someone you are both attracted to and who will treat you the way you want to be treated for long term.

According to Tim that is someone who wants to be clean in communications, who wants to work things out immediately rather than carry them around silently. When I saw that in her, I found someone I was knocked out by, who I thought would give me years of closeness. Both are still true today. Twenty six years after.

According to my own opinion, The one is that lady or that man you decide to choose out of everyone, to have faith in, be consistent in working things out with together, the one you will be willing to love and spend the rest of your life with regardless of the challenges. This is the person that strikes your inner being with sunshine.

Your kind comments and contributions are welcome.

 

 

 

 

7 Things Men Do Before They Say I Do

It’s very conflicting for men before they land on the path of ‘I DO’, or rather very adventurous. Men generally like to live ‘the life’. Gone are those days when a lady meets a guy for the first time and the man tells her he wants to settle down and really¬†keeps to his words.

So what are the things men do before they say ‘I do’

1. Nowadays ¬†a man will tell a lady on the first or second date that he wants to marry her just with the sole purpose¬†of getting into her pants. aha. Men tell ladies the truth and stop the deceiving game. Most men don’t plan to get married, they plan to f*ck, right from the very day they set eyes on a lady…. If not all , then most of them.‘ladies beware.’

2. Men are scared of commitment, it’s a very long journey for them to get to ‘I Do’ land. Men want to party hard, drink, play like there’s no tomorrow, taste¬†threesome. They want to be imaginative and constructive. Their minds need to feed on something appealing.

7 things men do before they say I do

3. Men want to find the perfect woman, one that can cook all types of continental meal, local dish, snacks, name it… They want one that is very good in bed by testing all, until they find the perfect match, the luscious woman with good looks and eye stopping figure. A woman who can work all day and work all night…


Women are not aliens. They are human. 


4. Every bachelor plans his finances for a better future, but I don’t understand situations where some men spend half of the money saved up for their marriage on the wedding ceremony, who is to be blamed for this, the women or men themselves? Either way, It’s still part of the journey to the I do land.

5. Every man wants to lose his virginity before the day. Have you ever met a virgin man at that point in life? Guess not! Even though we still have some female virgins…. men running around searching for female virgins when they have lost theirs long ago before the age of ten years. How is it possible to find the virgins of opposite sex when they have all been tested by the likes of you.

6. Really when a man starts to keep malice with his yet to be father in law is quite amusing, yet to think only women hated the idea of yet-to-be mother in law’s interference in relationships and marriages. Men on that journey always ensure they create a little distance before they say I do.

7. They tell lies to every (Lucy, Rihanna, Kimberley). Why? Simply put it this way–‘A man will always be a man.’

I really hope I’m not stepping on toes here, yikes! aah.. It’s just the simple I do truth, marriage should be enjoyed and not endured or bastardized. Catch all the fun, do whatever you want to do– hope women will be wise enough to detect all this….but men do all this with caution or don’t do it at all to stay safe! You never can tell what could be hunting you down from your past adventures.