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I actually thought deciding to go into marriage and leave the singles club means ’till death do us apart’ I also thought a man quitting bachelorhood meant he is ready for the storms preparing to come, whether it’s a good or bad one. Don’t get me wrong marriage is good but comes with its challenges, ask any married couple and they will bear me witness.

I got a visit from a male friend who apparently had to step out of his home for a party without his wife and head to my place afterwards for an advice, but of course his wife knew he was up to something because he has been doing a lot of that recently just to have excuses to be away from the wife and 4 months old baby.

Here it is: I never knew childbirth would have such an outcome on me; honestly I love my wife but I just don’t know what to do any longer. The baby’s demand for everything is taking its toll on me and my marriage. I can’t sleep at night anymore because of his wailing every night, and the nature of my job requires total concentration. Now I resume at work feeling miserable like my life is over.

I’m so sick and tired of all this pressure on my Life. People said the child will grow out of it as soon as he is older, but honestly I don’t believe it because I think he will get demanding as he grows older. I never knew it was going to be like this. I feel for my wife too, she always has to stay awake every night to tend to the baby, he wants to be in our arms at all time, he needs to suck the breast like every 15 to 30 minutes, his diaper needs to be changed several times, I am so out of finances buying everything just for one baby. Will it always be like this? I don’t know for how long I can bear this.

My wife sadly has discovered the effect on me and I feel guilty but I can’t help it, I assist a lot too, and that’s the exact reason why I’m dead fed up. Please what do I do?

He narrated his deep heartfelt feeling of the pressure and I could only feel sympathy for him because he obviously didn’t realise that there was still more yet to come, he is just about 2 years into the marriage.

Of course I gave him my advice since it was too late for me to give him a Pre-baby counselling which I feel every intending couples strongly need to go for.

“Love your wife, your baby, and be supportive. No matter how hard it may seem. She will always be your soulmate and mother of your children. The baby was brought into this world by you and her, he knows nothing other than what you teach him and the care you give him, please take care f him, he trusts you and looks up to you for every single thing in his life. Don’t make up any excuses to neglect your family, be strong, be a man, learn to be strong for them.

Your kind comments and suggestions are highly welcome.

Thank you.

Xoxoxo

Marriage proposal is a promise of taking one’s hand in marriage-Yes it takes a lot of courage… It’s either a (YES or NO), when that typical question is popped up-“will you marry me”, It makes a woman go gaga…

Lots of ladies in early stages of life have envisaged how they will be proposed to by “the one,” so also young men have imagined times without number how they will propose to their lovely “wife- to- be.”

It has been a dream come true for some while for others, has been their worst nightmare. However it’s always memorable when it goes as planned or better, but what happens to the self esteem of the person making the proposal if it turns out bad?

Have you ever witnessed a marriage proposal, or have you gone as far as making a dramatic one? I haven’t witnessed any but I have heard about some proposals that were awesome and some that went so bad that got my tongue tied…

Take for example a young dude that has prepared for so long how to make the best proposal. He finally finds the lady of his dreams, he decides to surprise her with a ring and takes her out for dinner, he keeps the ring in her dessert with the help of the waiter; OOPS!!! she swallows the ring or chokes on it, that can be horrible, men take note, if you have been planning that type of proposal-It’s time you cancel that plan.

A man decides to fake his own death after he slept in same bed with his girlfriend; the lady wakes up and tries to get him up but not even a flinch. She tries several times to wake him up, but without success, not knowing that the crazy guy was planning to make a marriage proposal. Guess what she does… she got out of bed, dressed up quickly, walks out of the house quietly; the guy got up, stunned, confused whether to call her or not, he waits three hours for her to call or maybe she would come back, but she didn’t, he decides to call her– the phone was off; he went to her house but she had disappeared…VERY HEARTBREAKING!! Be sure of who you are proposing to and don’t be an extremist…

I watched a video of a guy trying to propose to his girlfriend after dating her for three months, he said the usual love quotes, bla bla bla, went on his knees, she tries to stop him, but he refused, he made the proposal and then he got a bang on his head. She hit him with a guitar right on his head which got him sprawled on the floor in public, while everyone just stared. You know it can be very embarrassing for a girl if a man proposes to her in public when she’s actually not ready to get married.

It’s even more annoying when a man doesn’t propose at all but he he just starts discussing wedding plans with the lady and then she actually doesn’t know how to respond- Should she go ahead with the wedding plan discussion without being proposed to or should she ask him if he’s trying to propose to her or rather should she just carry along with his plans. For goodness sake… where is this shit coming from? Courtesy demands you propose first, even if you don’t want to go through with the whole marriage proposal drama!!!