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How Do I Overcome Pain Of Rejection

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I know how it feels to be rejected because it’s like being stabbed. The pain is so intense; you feel the urge to close your eyes and end it right there. I’ve been turned down many times in my life, in all areas such as in relationships, educational affairs, friendship…. name it. Not that they hated me but life has a way of pushing us around to mold us together to become stronger, independent, upright and be who we should be.

The pain of rejection is something we have all felt on many occasions, no matter how much we try to avoid it, trust me it’s inevitable and then we ask ‘why me’??

We feel rejected when we underestimate ourselves,

Have high expectations from people,

Have low esteem and fear criticism…

All this is normal but when it keeps going on in a vicious circle, then I would say “that’s bad for your health.” No one is built in perfection but everyone has the space to accept good, sensible correction to be a better person.

To overcome the pain of rejection is one of the most difficult things to do but I conquered it and there’s been no turning back. I’ve discovered the freedom of expression it brings, confidence in love affairs, the charisma that attracts genuine people and success.

How do I overcome pain of rejection

In a short sentence, to overcome the pain of rejection and flee from it – DEFINE WHO YOU ARE…

Caring about what people think of you is useless.

Most people don’t even know what they think of themselves.

– Sonya Teclai

 

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Who am I?

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Hello lovely people.

This is my very first blog post on WordPress which I posted on the 13th of April 2016, I had no idea what to expect but I kept blogging because my spirit kept haunting me for words to come out.

Kindly read!!

This is a question we all ask ourselves frequently. Recognizing who we are, signifies that we are ready to move on to the next level, quite a number of people ask themselves this question at almost every stage of their life. This brings home to us that people who ask this question are generally struggling with their personality and are searching for a core sense of themselves.

When I was in high school, I constantly used to ask myself the same question until a friend in the choir group noticed my dismay which led her into counselling me to stop RUNNING away from my SHADOW, I actually didn’t know what she was talking about until ten years later, I finally had to make a bold stop to face my shadow…the darker part of myself….fear of  failure.

Now I know who I am, I have learnt to welcome and embrace the darker part of myself, my flaws, bad habits, negative emotions, FEAR OF FAILURE…Once you have discovered the light, there is a new sense of self-waiting to be born, this is the time you get to realize there is more to who you are with a whole lot of potentials you have that needs to be exploited….

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Exposure-Nothing To Fear

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The valley of the shadow of death

I treaded upon

The roaring seas with gnashing teeth animals

I swam with

The evergreen thick bushes with venomous reptiles

I travelled within

The dry land with king of the beasts dwelling

I searched for myself

The blue sky encompassed by umbrageous thunder

I floated in the midst…

In the books I wrote the story of my life

The images in my eyes

Flashing back at my lifetime

That gripped my heart, my soul…

Exposed to the dangers of the world

Fallen! Risen! Conquered!

Nothing to fear again….

Travelled far, above and beyond

Black to gray

Young to old

Foolish to wise

Failure to success

I have stories to tell

Listen….

 

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Conquered Fear To Love Again

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The fears are gone;

the walls have thought me

to stand alone and be strong;

I have the foresight to see that

beautifully adorned treasure even

when it’s coming from afar. 

Love finds it’s way quietly into our life when we least expect it; it blossoms beautifully like a rose flower. We become weak with the desire to please and be loved, there ain’t nothing bad about that especially if it’s two sided but when it’s one sided, anguish sets in.

However I don’t want to discuss the anguish side of it. Let’s talk about the love that exists between two partners. I have written topics about love a couple of times, also situations drifting around it but  I’ve I really felt it? Yes I have! ‘IN AND OUT’. I’ve seen the up’s and down’s of it, the beauty and ugliness of it. I have felt the thorns go deep into my skin.

I have reached a stage in my life that as a woman I need to break down the walls that have surrounded my heart against predators, these walls have been my best friends, my lover, everything one can ever ask for, but not the real love that exists between a man and a woman. I can feel it knocking on my door which is getting louder by the day. I want to let it in. Those thoughts of perfection that can never be realised in the opposite sex seeking for Mr All and Mighty have stopped existing.The doors to let the imperfect man come in is set. That man knocking unrelentingly on the door, the one that wants to be given a chance to love me, to show me how it is to be cared for by a real man.

Walk in through the walls

that have been brought down,

walk on the floor of banquet,

rebuild a wall that does not shut out,

plant again the roses of love that befits a queen.

Your highness! seek, wait and be given.

Take, keep and care for it.

once it’s time for harvest,

we shall all be fulfilled forever.

 

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Eerie – Monday Moments

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That eerie feeling that makes one want to puke, creating agitation, and forming bile in the throat on a Monday is one that a lot of us do go through once in a while. It is similar to that feeling I  have when going for a job interview like my life depends on it.

What are my fears on a Monday?

I hate Monday meetings, unfortunately I can’t avoid them except if I want my subordinates to think less of me.

I hate to think of the fact that I always have to come up with marketing strategies on that day or what would be my importance?

I hate to have to wait all through to Friday to go to the cinema, doing that during the week slows me down.

I hate Mondays especially because I always have headaches from the aftermath of the rigorous brainstorming meeting.

Why do I love Mondays?

It pushes me to achieve great things during the week.

Mondays remind me to be relaxed and be happy.

Mondays make me acknowledge the truth behind life struggle, achievements and survival.

Remember Monday is:

M- Magnanimous

O – Optimistic

N- Neat

D- Determination

A- Astounding

Y- Yipee