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How Do I Overcome Pain Of Rejection

I know how it feels to be rejected because it’s like being stabbed. The pain is so intense; you feel the urge to close your eyes and end it right there. I’ve been turned down many times in my life, in all areas such as in relationships, educational affairs, friendship…. name it. Not that they hated me but life has a way of pushing us around to mold us together to become stronger, independent, upright and be who we should be.

The pain of rejection is something we have all felt on many occasions, no matter how much we try to avoid it, trust me it’s inevitable and then we ask ‘why me’??

We feel rejected when we underestimate ourselves,

Have high expectations from people,

Have low esteem and fear criticism…

All this is normal but when it keeps going on in a vicious circle, then I would say “that’s bad for your health.” No one is built in perfection but everyone has the space to accept good, sensible correction to be a better person.

To overcome the pain of rejection is one of the most difficult things to do but I conquered it and there’s been no turning back. I’ve discovered the freedom of expression it brings, confidence in love affairs, the charisma that attracts genuine people and success.

How do I overcome pain of rejection

In a short sentence, to overcome the pain of rejection and flee from it – DEFINE WHO YOU ARE…

Caring about what people think of you is useless.

Most people don’t even know what they think of themselves.

– Sonya Teclai

 

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Who am I?

Hello lovely people.

This is my very first blog post on WordPress which I posted on the 13th of April 2016, I had no idea what to expect but I kept blogging because my spirit kept haunting me for words to come out.

Kindly read!!

This is a question we all ask ourselves frequently. Recognizing who we are, signifies that we are ready to move on to the next level, quite a number of people ask themselves this question at almost every stage of their life. This brings home to us that people who ask this question are generally struggling with their personality and are searching for a core sense of themselves.

When I was in high school, I constantly used to ask myself the same question until a friend in the choir group noticed my dismay which led her into counselling me to stop RUNNING away from my SHADOW, I actually didn’t know what she was talking about until ten years later, I finally had to make a bold stop to face my shadow…the darker part of myself….fear of  failure.

Now I know who I am, I have learnt to welcome and embrace the darker part of myself, my flaws, bad habits, negative emotions, FEAR OF FAILURE…Once you have discovered the light, there is a new sense of self-waiting to be born, this is the time you get to realize there is more to who you are with a whole lot of potentials you have that needs to be exploited….

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Exposure-Nothing To Fear

The valley of the shadow of death

I treaded upon

The roaring seas with gnashing teeth animals

I swam with

The evergreen thick bushes with venomous reptiles

I travelled within

The dry land with king of the beasts dwelling

I searched for myself

The blue sky encompassed by umbrageous thunder

I floated in the midst…

In the books I wrote the story of my life

The images in my eyes

Flashing back at my lifetime

That gripped my heart, my soul…

Exposed to the dangers of the world

Fallen! Risen! Conquered!

Nothing to fear again….

Travelled far, above and beyond

Black to gray

Young to old

Foolish to wise

Failure to success

I have stories to tell

Listen….

 

Conquered Fear To Love Again

The fears are gone;

the walls have thought me

to stand alone and be strong;

I have the foresight to see that

beautifully adorned treasure even

when it’s coming from afar. 

Love finds it’s way quietly into our life when we least expect it; it blossoms beautifully like a rose flower. We become weak with the desire to please and be loved, there ain’t nothing bad about that especially if it’s two sided but when it’s one sided, anguish sets in.

However I don’t want to discuss the anguish side of it. Let’s talk about the love that exists between two partners. I have written topics about love a couple of times, also situations drifting around it but  I’ve I really felt it? Yes I have! ‘IN AND OUT’. I’ve seen the up’s and down’s of it, the beauty and ugliness of it. I have felt the thorns go deep into my skin.

I have reached a stage in my life that as a woman I need to break down the walls that have surrounded my heart against predators, these walls have been my best friends, my lover, everything one can ever ask for, but not the real love that exists between a man and a woman. I can feel it knocking on my door which is getting louder by the day. I want to let it in. Those thoughts of perfection that can never be realised in the opposite sex seeking for Mr All and Mighty have stopped existing.The doors to let the imperfect man come in is set. That man knocking unrelentingly on the door, the one that wants to be given a chance to love me, to show me how it is to be cared for by a real man.

Walk in through the walls

that have been brought down,

walk on the floor of banquet,

rebuild a wall that does not shut out,

plant again the roses of love that befits a queen.

Your highness! seek, wait and be given.

Take, keep and care for it.

once it’s time for harvest,

we shall all be fulfilled forever.

 

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Eerie – Monday Moments

That eerie feeling that makes one want to puke, creating agitation, and forming bile in the throat on a Monday is one that a lot of us do go through once in a while. It is similar to that feeling I  have when going for a job interview like my life depends on it.

What are my fears on a Monday?

I hate Monday meetings, unfortunately I can’t avoid them except if I want my subordinates to think less of me.

I hate to think of the fact that I always have to come up with marketing strategies on that day or what would be my importance?

I hate to have to wait all through to Friday to go to the cinema, doing that during the week slows me down.

I hate Mondays especially because I always have headaches from the aftermath of the rigorous brainstorming meeting.

Why do I love Mondays?

It pushes me to achieve great things during the week.

Mondays remind me to be relaxed and be happy.

Mondays make me acknowledge the truth behind life struggle, achievements and survival.

Remember Monday is:

M- Magnanimous

O – Optimistic

N- Neat

D- Determination

A- Astounding

Y- Yipee

The Beauty of My Culture

The generational values sublimed in the ethical region,

manifestation of the randomness within; born inside of me.

The driving force of the cluster of togetherness resulting from

the inner mind of my people. The values of my societal knowledge

hatched as a beauty into my daily life, manifesting into streamlines

of concurrences to be recognised. Perception generating from the

stranger with the practice of my culture; thoughts flowing from him

of the weirdness of it. The mental attitude of it that he understands not.

 For in him is ignorance and fear of what is not understood. The flawlessness

of my practice is undeniably beauteous. Enchanting the senses of old and

new generation; with the driving force of never letting go.

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Season of Green

 

Greener glow in green.

Thick bark, proud I look to the world,

Tree standing tall among all

Comforter! provider! flawless!

Healer of the sick, richness to the poor.

 

Darkness descended; forces I see not,

Shields of disappointments came forth,

I turned yellow! I fell! I dried up!

Oh! The pain; all covered in shame I was

Tears I could not shed

Death beseeched me.

 

Out of the corners of the earth,

A loud sound came; Fear not, ye cried,

Shaft of light glistered from the depth,

Whom I know not came forth.

Thirst I feel no more; downcast no more.

I turned up from earth to the sky again,

I stood out, greener than before,

Tiny tots I bear again! again! again!

Nay he says, the end comes for you not.

You are greener I say; always greener will be.

 

 

Little Changes That Makes A Man

Change is part of our daily lives that cannot be avoided, how we react to it is what matters. Accepting change in our lives gives room for the bigger picture. This picture is determined by you and only YOU.

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Not accommodating change keeps you fixed in a position you don’t belong. The universe is in a constant change, not moving along with it can leave you behind. Imagine a ball rolling on the ground, moving constantly, your decision not to run along to grab the ball will make you loose it. A little change from that fixed position was all you needed to catch that ball for you to be a winner. Instead you stayed back and watched with fear of running along to catch it, you were scared of loosing or stumbling.

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If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living- Gaily Sheely.

Resisting change is a reflection of who you are, accepting change makes you the highflyer-Eddaz.

Reasons why change should not be resisted:

Man resists change due to fear of the unknown. The greatest fear you should have is resisting change, so you are actually scared of what is right in front of you which is harmless, “stare into the eyes of what you fear most.” Stop having that fear of change, it might just be the solution to that knocking headache.

Morale is increased when change is accommodated, staying in the same position in an organisation makes you burn out; do something new that will lead to that change, motivate yourself if you aren’t motivated, “make the change, don’t wait for the change to come.” If you have to study further, then do that. If you have to search for a better job, then do just that.

Accepting to change your location might be what you need to meet -the-one, aha. Face that fear, travel to another state or country if the need arises or if work requires you to do so, it might just be a “blessing in disguise.”

Kindly share with others what change you have embraced in your life and how it felt.

 

Reach Out To Them

Indigent, poverty-stricken

Begging for alms,

Now their survival technique

They cry out for help

Not their fault, deprived

Of their homes

Reach out to them

 

Emotionally detached,

Sad, loneliness has overridden joy

Living in an environment

With fierce combart

They’ve been hurt, deprived

Of the pleasures they deserve

Reach out to them.

 

Abused, battered,

The wicked has shown them hostility

Fear has crippled into them

They hide amongst the crowd

They can’t cry out, deprived

Of freedom they deserve

Reach out to them.

 

Dying of ill-health

From an ailment with no cure

A bad omen for them

Negativity has crawled into them

They are upset, deprived

Of help from those that can offer

Reach out to them.