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Couples Who Don’t fight

I have often wondered If there are real couples who don’t get into clashes with each other; I have also realized that a relationship or marriage without arguments gets boring. Even while you are having the best of times, you argue about everything under the sun.

From my observation and research, I have been able to come up with a list of couples who don’t fight.

  1. Those who are pretentious, full of resentment and liars.
  2. The ones who leave apart or rarely see each other.
  3. Those who mean nothing to each other.

You might have seen couples that look like they don’t engage in conflicts but, the secret is that they do and are superb at it… They have worked on it over time and have developed strategies and armors on how to fight effectively and efficiently without washing their dirty laundry in public.

A strong marriage requires two people who choose to love each other even on those days when they struggle to like each other- DaveWillis.Org

It’s not a fairy tale when you decide to share your time and space with another human, in fact, it could get annoying seeing the same person doing the same thing repeatedly but because of the affection and devotion you have for the other individual, you are willing to make things work out between yourselves.

There will always be arguments from time to time and after you reconcile, the bond gets tighter. What matters most is to ensure you argue constructively by communicating your feelings, thoughts, and opinions in a respectful and mature manner.

Fighting is part of a healthy relationship, but sincere and open communication beats conflict; who says anyone can be happy all the time? Disagreements help you learn something new about each other.

Behind every couple lies two people who have fought hard to overcome all obstacles and interference to be that way. Why? Because it’s what they wanted- Kim George

 

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Does True Love Really Exist?

It’s difficult to love and for some people, it’s as easy as taking a sip of wine. I have often wondered what it would be like if every passion lasts forever…. the only true love I know existing in this universe is that of the Almighty.

The unquestionable affection

Without limit

No doubts, no confusion

No skepticism, no holding back

The treasure of God is incomparable

It’s hard to express this feeling nowadays because it’s prone to get broken, this makes loving another human tricky. But has a genuine devotion ever existed in humanity because if so why are we so divided, why do couples wake up one day and kill each other, children killing siblings and parents?

Why would a partner seek for divorce after years of being together just because they are no longer loyal to each other or due to whatever reason; I thought true love doesn’t give up… we aren’t God, but he lives in us. What do we call what we have now?

Love differs

The existence is pure

But they refined it

To fit into their daily worlds

Be filled with purity

So that true love can survive

In us

 

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It’s The Season Of Love

It’s the season of love, men proposing, couples falling in love and moving on. Endeavor to express love to someone now, could be your parents, neighbors, friends both forgotten and present, siblings, anyone that deserves to be loved which apparently I believe is everyone, moreover, there are homeless people out there that need comfort and help, so let’s offer them what we can.

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Did I Marry The Wrong Person?

If you have recently found yourself asking the questions, bear in mind that you aren’t alone. Several couples do same. The question is why ask such at this stage of your marriage…

Did you get to know each other very well or was there an oversight? Were you guys true to yourself before eloping? Did the love fail in the middle of the journey? Did you guys loose focus somewhere? Sometimes we see the signs before taking the final decision and sometimes we don’t. Whatever happened; we are just humans.

Did I marry the wrong person?

What went wrong?… Remember when you took the vows, you did it because you were sure he or she was the right person for you until death do you apart…Always know that no one is perfect; don’t become too hard on yourself.

Once you find yourself in this dilemma what should be the next step to take? It’s a very confusing and depressing point in life when this questions start coming up, the feeling of being lost, nowhere to go, not sure who to talk to, not knowing what happened to the lover boy or sweet girl you married…It could be very sad.

One thing is certain…“All hope is not lost”… Everything that has happened in this world has happened before to other people and you won’t be the last it will happen to.

Take heart, pick up the bits and pieces where you left off…Think..It’s either you start afresh since you are already in it or you decide to take the easier step which might be the right or wrong one.

Did I marry the wrong person?

What I would do is to take a leap of faith if I still feel the love deep in my heart as long as it’s not an abusive marriage. To be honest with you if the man is violent with me, then I would definitely take a walk until or if ever he drops the violent nature. Meanwhile I would ensure I stay happy and focused.

It’s surely not an easy stage in life but try to stay strong, talk to trusted ones to free your mind, if you have kids, try to keep them happy and away from whatever drama might be occurring. Whatever you do, make sure you are truly happy doing it.

What would you do in this situation?

Fairy Tales Love Stories

Choosing your life partner can sometimes be so tough. When you love someone, you love the whole person, the family and everything that makes that person. When you decide to share your love with a crazy person, you must know that their will be moments that you have to be crazy too, being in love with a sweet person makes everything mouth watering, loving a temperamental person requires a lot of patience.

Regardless of whom you swipe right or left with in the journey of love, make sure you hold onto each other because when the storm comes, it’s either you survive it together or you get carried away by it-Choose your love, Love your Choice. Love is based on commitment, everything you do is to appease, satisfy, help and serve the one you love.

I have a few fairy tale love success stories that I would like to share with my friends out there:

Britney and Daniel

Britney met Daniel when she was in the university and he was a banker, he stayed on the same street where Britney’s parents lived, once in while Daniel would walk over to Britney’s mother’s groceries shop close to the house to buy some groceries and he would stay back to have a chat with her mum until one day Britney got back from school after 3 hours journey and was very tired. Daniel stared at her in disbelief at how beautiful she looked and that was how the journey started, Daniel increased the number of times he bought groceries from the store until he finally met Britney alone in the store. Although Daniel didn’t seem right for her at first and she tried to avoid him a couple of times, but he never gave up on her. He would look for ways to get her alone in the store or down the street to chat with her and make her smile.

One day luckily for him he got her number, called her up a couple of times and started to visit her in school. Daniel waited 5 years for Britney to graduate from University and he finally he proposed, they are together and happy now. It was indeed tough for Daniel during the five years of waiting, but he kept on hard believing in the love he hard for her, Tina loved him more than ever because of his compelling nature, words that came out of him set him aside which thrilled her.

Elvin and Landen

Landen is 69 years now while Elvin is 60 years. I was opportuned to get this story from Elvin who spoke to me excitedly about how she met her husband years back. Dating back to about 35 years, Elvin and Landen met at a a friends party where they got introduced to each other by the celebrant, one thing led to the other and they started to date but a few months after, Elvin realised that Landen was too head strong and temperamental which kind off pissed her off.

Landen had to travel out of the country for 2 years after they got separated. When Landen got back from his trip, he perceived that he couldn’t let Elvin go because he was much too in love with her already and felt her happiness was much more important for him, Elvin accepted him back into her life because she also discovered one thing– her life was too BORING without him, they both knew they had to keep their love for each other to be able to feel the sun from both sides. Even though they have passed through storms in their marriage now, they are still crazily in love with each other with 4 kids that have grown into adults and 5 grandchildren.

Natasha and Zuriel

They were actually working in the same company, Zuriel was an expatriate from United Kingdom and Natasha was working in a construction company in South Africa. Natasha was transferred from one of the company branches to the headquarters where Zuriel was working. She was the facilities manager of the staff quarters management apartments where Zuriel was staying.

I love this story most especially and you will see the reason why. Zuriel took notice of her one morning while she moved around doing her business-her job. She never knew that while he was off work or about to live for the office in the morning, he would move around the compound several times just to see her and admire her, she would just walk by him and say her greetings politely which was what was expected of her.

One day Zuriel was off duty and sat down close to the pool side where she was inspecting the facilities. She looked up and met his eyes on her, she looked away quickly and tried to avoid his gaze. She walked past him without greeting him this time. Second day Zuriel called in sick at work, sat at his usual spot at the lounge, a couple of times he would look at her and smile, she would smile back, this kept on for a while until he asked her out for dinner. Nathasha eventually got a job at another company and they started a proper relationship, their love for each other grew stronger.

Zuriel decided to stay back in South Africa where they got married and her happy together with 2 kids.

Love can CONQUER ALL.

“Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eyes”-H.Jackson Brown, Jr