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How Do I Overcome Pain Of Rejection

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I know how it feels to be rejected. It’s like a sudden stab, sharp and intense, making you want to close your eyes and shut the world out. I’ve been turned down countless times in life—relationships, education, friendships… You name it. It wasn’t that people hated me, but life has a way of shaping us, pushing us through trials to become stronger, independent, and the people we are meant to be.

Rejection is something we all face, no matter how much we try to avoid it. It often leaves us asking, “Why me?” We feel it when we underestimate ourselves, set unrealistic expectations for others, or fear criticism. These feelings are normal—but when rejection becomes a constant cycle, it can be harmful. Nobody is perfect, but we all have the opportunity to accept guidance and grow.

Overcoming rejection is one of the hardest lessons, yet I’ve conquered it. And there’s no turning back. In its place, I’ve found freedom of expression, confidence in love, a magnetic charisma that attracts genuine people, and success that feels deeply earned. Rejection no longer defines me—it refines me.

How do I overcome pain of rejection

To overcome rejection, define who you truly are and refuse to be shaken by it.

Caring about what people think of you is useless.

Most people don’t even know what they think of themselves.

– Sonya Teclai

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Do Women Really Fall for Flattery?

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Over the years, there has been a saying that ” If you want a woman to comply to your requests, try using flattery to persuade her.” Really I wonder if every or any man can get away with this with all women. It may have worked a couple of times, in fact it has worked 98 percent of the time used.  Flattery plays well with women. YES!  But it doesn’t sit still. She will always refer back to it.

Hank Ketcham- Flattery is like chewing gum. Enjoy it, but don’t swallow it.

Perhaps women have been complying with this over the years.

Flattery is the worst and fastest way of showing our esteem – Jonathan Swift

Flattery is a form of positive energy which men use to compliment or entice women when they need an instant result from them; it’s usually used instead of enforcing them to bend to their will.

Forms of Flattery used on women by men:

  • Men flatter women with words, lies, compliments and gestures.
  • Listening attentively to a woman talk for hours, even when she sounds very boring.
  • Pretending to have turned a new leaf by acting like a saint or being over sincere.
  • Showing interests in her accomplishments even if they make no sense to him.

A woman care about actions more than words, empty juicy flattery with nothing to back it up will only get her to pay attention initially, but will not go too far with her.

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Boost Your Self Confidence

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I have heard of several instances where self esteem is a problem for so many, it has degenerated to a level so high in the life of an individual that they feel they can’t overcome it. It advances with them to adulthood to the extent that some people find it so hard to perform well in interviews, it makes some people avoid socializing, some find it so difficult to do things that will make them happy-because they think they will never be approved of.

It usually arises from early growth, where parents are being overprotective of the child; criticism is also an element, when a child is being pushed to hard, it makes him loose confidence, parents who criticize their children over every little detail or failure are not only killing their confidence but are also crippling their spirit.We as humans will take cognisance of it and decide to use it then bullying sets in.This can only maim an individual development, self esteem, self knowledge and growth. We don’t want this to happen to any of our loved one…

If you grew up this way, it’s never too late to get out of that bondage, that is what is seems to be…Think positive, be optimistic, never allow criticism get to you. People can’t bring you down, they can only try. Don’t allow your feelings be toyed with, you are the determinant of how people treat you, live your heart into their hands, then you are already under their control for manipulation.

Enhancing your self esteem will pave way in facing challenges, it helps you to meet the right people in the right social gathering, It helps you in development of your writing skills and not giving up in what you believe in no matter how many times you fail at it. You want to blog? You want to publish a book? You want to sing? Why not just take one step of confidence today and try whatever is bugging your mind and giving you sleepless nights as long as its’ not a bad thing…

How do you build self confidence? Say to yourself everyday,”I will try harder today, I will be confident today.” Be bold, take informed risks, challenge yourself, love yourself, always remind yourself that you want to succeed at whatever you do but you can only achieve it through confidence. Don’t be too hard on yourself.

Today is Monday! Be confident in achieving success at whatever you will embark on.

Xoxo