Devastation- Never Been Asked Out By A Guy

January 24, 2017 EDDaz 9 Comments

A fully grown woman in all proportions is expected to be asked out by men whether handsome or ugly, tall, short or whatever. It’s rather devastating when a girl of eighteen and above, single, pretty and descent isn’t asked out by any guy but only admired once in a while with kind gestures.

What could be the problem here? I met with a friend of mine yesterday who introduced me to her younger cousin of twenty-four, pretty girl I must admit. Apparently she has never be asked out by a guy talkless of being kissed😮😮 isn’t that rather ridiculous… Literally she has been missing out on the sumptuous kisses and attention of cute guys.

Now how do I come in here? I’m supposed to help hook her up with a guy and then I asked her ‘Tell me about yourself’ she goes thus…. “I’m a very shy lady, I love reading, not really the social type, I’m a virgin” but of course she has to be….I mean she has never been asked out except… Honestly, I would prefer not to hook her up but try to help prepare her for the experience of getting herself hooked.

The point here is that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with her nature except there must be something she isn’t saying. One thing I noticed about her was that she’s exceptionally shy; in this day and age I haven’t met a guy that wants the shy, innocent mummy’s girl, unfortunately…Technology has changed men and other things. No one wants to hang out with the boring type; also she doesn’t have those attractive smiles that makes a guy pee in his pants…

What should a girl that has never been asked out by a guy do to have them running after her?

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Did I Marry The Wrong Person?

January 23, 2017 EDDaz 12 Comments

If you have recently found yourself asking the questions, bear in mind that you aren’t alone. Several couples do same. The question is why ask such at this stage of your marriage…

Did you get to know each other very well or was there an oversight? Were you guys true to yourself before eloping? Did the love fail in the middle of the journey? Did you guys loose focus somewhere? Sometimes we see the signs before taking the final decision and sometimes we don’t. Whatever happened; we are just humans.

What went wrong?… Remember when you took the vows, you did it because you were sure he or she was the right person for you until death do you apart…Always know that no one is perfect; don’t become too hard on yourself.

Once you find yourself in this dilemma what should be the next step to take? It’s a very confusing and depressing point in life when this questions start coming up, the feeling of being lost, nowhere to go, not sure who to talk to, not knowing what happened to the lover boy or sweet girl you married…It could be very sad.

One thing is certain…“All hope is not lost”… Everything that has happened in this world has happened before to other people and you won’t be the last it will happen to.

Take heart, pick up the bits and pieces where you left off…Think..It’s either you start afresh since you are already in it or you decide to take the easier step which might be the right or wrong one.

What I would do is to take a leap of faith if I still feel the love deep in my heart as long as it’s not an abusive marriage. To be honest with you if the man is violent with me, then I would definitely take a walk until or if ever he drops the violent nature. Meanwhile I would ensure I stay happy and focused.

It’s surely not an easy stage in life but try to stay strong, talk to trusted ones to free your mind, if you have kids, try to keep them happy and away from whatever drama might be occurring. Whatever you do, make sure you are truly happy doing it.

What would you do in this situation?

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Exposure-Nothing To Fear

January 20, 2017 EDDaz 11 Comments

The valley of the shadow of death

I treaded upon

The roaring seas with gnashing teeth animals

I swam with

The evergreen thick bushes with venomous reptiles

I travelled within

The dry land with king of the beasts dwelling

I searched for myself

The blue sky encompassed by umbrageous thunder

I floated in the midst…

In the books I wrote the story of my life

The images in my eyes

Flashing back at my lifetime

That gripped my heart, my soul…

Exposed to the dangers of the world

Fallen! Risen! Conquered!

Nothing to fear again….

Travelled far, above and beyond

Black to gray

Young to old

Foolish to wise

Failure to success

I have stories to tell

Listen….

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Getting Overworked In A Relationship

January 19, 2017 EDDaz 9 Comments

People meet each other, some develop attractions and start dating while others don’t but still go ahead onto that path, but realistically do we even really know what we want to achieve from this affair…Or are we just into the dating game to have fun and then move onto the next?

We eventually get overworked in them when we don’t face the facts…Take note of the following before going into a relationship so as to avoid hassles, heartbreak, depression and the likes…

1. Be sincere with yourself, knowing why you want to go into the relationship, what you aim to contribute and achieve.

2. Ensure you and your dating partner are on the same path. This is very essential as it makes the relationship more enjoyable and stressfree.

3. Never let your hopes be high, have a free mind and have fun as desired.

4. Cut down on your demands, it makes you appear desperate when you don’t.

5. Be friends, get to know each other before you start the relationship, ensure it’s someone you can treat like gold and do same to you.

6. While you are still single, prepare yourself, mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually and domestically because oh boy…You will need those tools.

Your aim is to have a relationship that leads to marriage?