When a Relationship Sends you Running for Cover

September 8, 2016 EDDaz 32 Comments

The strength of courtship between a man and woman lies in the bond between them. What creates this bond is the relationship.

Facing reality, a relationship will do one or all this things to you; it will either kill you, modify, render you useless, make you float with joy, make you feel edgy constantly or decide on the one. The foundation must be built at the onset of the courtship.

I have a friend in dilemma #relationshipheadache. She saw it all but could’t let go, in spite of all the danger signs. It’s a real headache! Realistically if it was you, would you TAKE THE BOLD STEP AND RUN FOR COVER?

Yes you should run for your life! It’s sometimes tough to do but we just have to. Guys, when you dilly-dally in a relationship, you might end up in the ditch. What can be worse than getting involved with someone that is a complete ‘jughead’, you had actually presumed that this person could be the one, and unfortunately turned out to be ‘a devil in disguise’.

Fine, you’ve already gotten into the relationship thinking you have the right foundation but then you start to realise the mistake you made, It’s definitely not too late for you to take your exit.

There are instances where your partner could be forgiven but you must know when forgiveness should be applied and when you should no longer put up with the shit..

Signs you should run for cover:

Negativity

When your partner argues over everything and anything, sees all your flaws, nothing good about you, acts like a drama-queen, makes you feel bad….RUN.

Too Busy

Even President Obama isn’t too busy for his family. Once you start getting this vibes of ‘I’m very busy’ from him, it’s time to quite without giving notice, WHY? Simply because you aren’t important enough, once your partner can do without you..Think!

Can’t be seen in public together

What a shame! Your partner can’t introduce you to friends, so what the hell are you still waiting for..Knock, Knock. Come on wake up, your partner should be proud of you, whoever you are, however you look or whatever you are. It’s not too late to RUN….

Lying Freak

If he says it’s raining and you actually need to go out to affirm if it’s true-Hello? Babes, he’s just careless with your emotions….Your partner will probably tell you “I lied because I didn’t want to hurt you” OR “I lied because I respect you,” It’s a damn lie! If he didn’t want to hurt you or respect you, why did he mess up in the first place? There is no explainable reason for such..

This signs are apparent to a lot of us, but sadly we ignore them because we are so caught up in our feelings, emotions and probably business deal we entered into with our partners at the onset.

Remember define your relationship from the beginning, it’s not too late to do it now before you move too deep into it.

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Sometimes Your Best Isn’t Going to Be Enough

September 7, 2016 EDDaz 8 Comments

Try harder to succeed, probably your best wasn’t good enough. This thought provoking post was posted by Dray. Read! Enjoy!

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The Smell of a Baby

September 6, 2016 EDDaz 28 Comments

Have you noticed the feeling that sparks up when you embrace a new born baby to your bosom, phew..It’s a sensational one that tickles the brain and makes you want to gobble up the baby. I have cuddled babies in my arms several times, and I began to ponder on it why they smell so sweet even without application of any baby powder, baby oil or ointment. This is a natural phenomenon which I realised that scientists have been carrying out researches on for years.

You might have noticed the unresistant sniff you take when you lift a baby in your hands, the scent is one that makes you want to hold the baby tight in your arms and never let go, constant sniff of a baby by the mother or someone very close to the baby, brings out this unusual youthfulness and joy to the person.

The smell is so attractive that if it were possible to bottle up the smell and manufacture it into a cream or perfume, lots of people would have done so, unfortunately I don’t think anyone has done this, probably they’ve tried…get it right that it’s just the gift from God that comes along with the baby itself.

In Frontiers of Psychology, scientists carried out a research where two groups of 15 women were presented, one group had women that had given birth within six weeks and the other who had never had babies with the smell taken from the baby pajamas while scanning their brains.

Result showed that those that had never had babies responded positively to the smell-with odor familiarity, pleasantness and more, even though the babies weren’t theirs’, same with the mothers… their brains responded to the trigger of smell from the pajamas, but their was a distinct response from the mothers to the smell of their babies than to the smell of those that weren’t.

The researches concluded that the smell from babies can act as a catalyst for mechanism of bonding between the mother to infant and infant to mother.

The smell of babies is the best I have ever known, except if there’s one I’m not aware of yet😘😘

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Memories in The Cake

September 5, 2016 EDDaz 14 Comments

Those memories long ago

That cannot be forgotten

But stays on in the pictures

Are celebrated with cakes

Which displays lights of joy

Around friends and families

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Child birth Pressure Is Destroying My Marriage

September 5, 2016 EDDaz 21 Comments

I actually thought deciding to go into marriage and leave the singles club means ’till death do us apart’ I also thought a man quitting bachelorhood meant he is ready for the storms preparing to come, whether it’s a good or bad one. Don’t get me wrong marriage is good but comes with its challenges, ask any married couple and they will bear me witness.

I got a visit from a male friend who apparently had to step out of his home for a party without his wife and head to my place afterwards for an advice, but of course his wife knew he was up to something because he has been doing a lot of that recently just to have excuses to be away from the wife and 4 months old baby.

Here it is: I never knew childbirth would have such an outcome on me; honestly I love my wife but I just don’t know what to do any longer. The baby’s demand for everything is taking its toll on me and my marriage. I can’t sleep at night anymore because of his wailing every night, and the nature of my job requires total concentration. Now I resume at work feeling miserable like my life is over.

I’m so sick and tired of all this pressure on my Life. People said the child will grow out of it as soon as he is older, but honestly I don’t believe it because I think he will get demanding as he grows older. I never knew it was going to be like this. I feel for my wife too, she always has to stay awake every night to tend to the baby, he wants to be in our arms at all time, he needs to suck the breast like every 15 to 30 minutes, his diaper needs to be changed several times, I am so out of finances buying everything just for one baby. Will it always be like this? I don’t know for how long I can bear this.

My wife sadly has discovered the effect on me and I feel guilty but I can’t help it, I assist a lot too, and that’s the exact reason why I’m dead fed up. Please what do I do?

He narrated his deep heartfelt feeling of the pressure and I could only feel sympathy for him because he obviously didn’t realise that there was still more yet to come, he is just about 2 years into the marriage.

Of course I gave him my advice since it was too late for me to give him a Pre-baby counselling which I feel every intending couples strongly need to go for.

“Love your wife, your baby, and be supportive. No matter how hard it may seem. She will always be your soulmate and mother of your children. The baby was brought into this world by you and her, he knows nothing other than what you teach him and the care you give him, please take care f him, he trusts you and looks up to you for every single thing in his life. Don’t make up any excuses to neglect your family, be strong, be a man, learn to be strong for them.

Your kind comments and suggestions are highly welcome.

Thank you.

Xoxoxo