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Child birth Pressure Is Destroying My Marriage

September 5, 2016 EDDaz 21 Comments

I actually thought deciding to go into marriage and leave the singles club means ’till death do us apart’ I also thought a man quitting bachelorhood meant he is ready for the storms preparing to come, whether it’s a good or bad one. Don’t get me wrong marriage is good but comes with its challenges, ask any married couple and they will bear me witness.

I got a visit from a male friend who apparently had to step out of his home for a party without his wife and head to my place afterwards for an advice, but of course his wife knew he was up to something because he has been doing a lot of that recently just to have excuses to be away from the wife and 4 months old baby.

Here it is: I never knew childbirth would have such an outcome on me; honestly I love my wife but I just don’t know what to do any longer. The baby’s demand for everything is taking its toll on me and my marriage. I can’t sleep at night anymore because of his wailing every night, and the nature of my job requires total concentration. Now I resume at work feeling miserable like my life is over.

I’m so sick and tired of all this pressure on my Life. People said the child will grow out of it as soon as he is older, but honestly I don’t believe it because I think he will get demanding as he grows older. I never knew it was going to be like this. I feel for my wife too, she always has to stay awake every night to tend to the baby, he wants to be in our arms at all time, he needs to suck the breast like every 15 to 30 minutes, his diaper needs to be changed several times, I am so out of finances buying everything just for one baby. Will it always be like this? I don’t know for how long I can bear this.

My wife sadly has discovered the effect on me and I feel guilty but I can’t help it, I assist a lot too, and that’s the exact reason why I’m dead fed up. Please what do I do?

He narrated his deep heartfelt feeling of the pressure and I could only feel sympathy for him because he obviously didn’t realise that there was still more yet to come, he is just about 2 years into the marriage.

Of course I gave him my advice since it was too late for me to give him a Pre-baby counselling which I feel every intending couples strongly need to go for.

“Love your wife, your baby, and be supportive. No matter how hard it may seem. She will always be your soulmate and mother of your children. The baby was brought into this world by you and her, he knows nothing other than what you teach him and the care you give him, please take care f him, he trusts you and looks up to you for every single thing in his life. Don’t make up any excuses to neglect your family, be strong, be a man, learn to be strong for them.

Your kind comments and suggestions are highly welcome.

Thank you.

Xoxoxo

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Love Yourself First

August 30, 2016 EDDaz 6 Comments

This is a very inspiring story posted by My Worth. You need to read it from the beginning to the end just like I couldn’t resist doing. Enjoy😉

My Worth

Happy Petrishko

Wife and Mother of two

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This is story of a woman who never seizes to amaze me. Recently I ran to her for help and the one thing I got out of the conversation we had was, “Honey you need to love yourself first”. I stopped in my tracks and thought to myself, this woman has been through hell and back, led a life that I can’t bring myself to imagine and yet she is the same woman who is standing before me telling me to “Love Myself First”. Many of us look at our circumstances, our past, our reality and think “my struggle is too real so I don’t deserve the best”. After reading Happy’s story, I want each one of you to reflect and conclude whether your challenge is greater than your Worth. Happy is the most confident and self-acknowledged person I know….she recognizes her worth.

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Friday Inspiration: Love Me

August 26, 2016 EDDaz 5 Comments

Love me

That’s all I ask for

Let our love be like a fairy tale

Happy Friday bloggers

Love like you have never loved before.

It’s #fridayflexnight.

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Things To Know About Online Dating

August 25, 2016 EDDaz 39 Comments

Gone are the days of meeting potential partners through friends, families or in the social environment. Online dating is now in the big picture and making real waves across the internet and on applications. Online dating is real and has come to stay! And Yes you can find love through this medium.

The requirements needed to go online dating is just by going to play store, type online dating and within seconds various applications that can be downloaded pops up. It can be found across different Niche. It encourages friends without borders; This dating system has helped several couples in meeting up, some ended in fairy tale stories while some ended disastrous, but isn’t that the same thing with people that actually met physically (Real World)? My opinion is that it’s a fifty fifty thing. It either ends well or doesn’t.

Dating online has made it a lot easier for workaholics to also have an opportunity to meet a lovely man or woman without having to sit at the bar or on the streets waiting for a good looking one to come along, you no longer need to wait forever to be hooked up by a friend or family.

You don’t have to worry about being shy or confident enough to approach anyone. The internet does that for you. Just by putting up your profile, two or three good looking pictures and optimistic wordings before you start sending out icebreakers. Otherwise you might not get as many positive responses.

A lot of people question the safety of dating online. Disadvantages of online dating which can be averted are as follows:

1. Use of fake pictures on the profile: What you need to do is to always search for the opposite sex with different pictures with same face on it. Once you see a profile with one picture, ‘ X’ it and move to another one until you find the one that meets your requirements.

2. They might not be who they say they are: Ask as many questions as possible, ask the same questions again, they will surely forget the lies they told at one point or the other but give space of time and days or weeks before you ask the questions again. Once you figure out that they are aren’t who they said they are, it’s easier for you to move on because you haven’t met them in the physical, just delete their profile and that’s it.

3. They try to exploit you: Be very patient in online dating, don’t rush into having emotional feelings for someone you haven’t met yet. Get to know the persons background and if possible contact someone that you know very well who might be close to his or her location so that they can do some findings on the person. Once they get used to chatting with you and start demanding for money. Pleeeaaasseeee RUN!!! That’s all I have to write about this point.

I recommend looking at online dating as a very sophisticated means of dating that introduces you to potential matches. After finding the one you like and is OK in all sphere, then please move offline and start with the next stage of falling in love, go to cinemas, party with friends and you won’t live to regret it.