You saw her
Then you should keep loving her…
Just don’t ever stop chasing her….
Are you in a relationship that brings tears, sorrow, doubts, low self esteem into your life?
You used to be a very happy person, fun to be with, ambitious but all of a sudden you don’t even know who you are anymore, you find yourself feeling agitated a lot, your smiles fading day by day.
Then you are dating the wrong person….being single is also a virtue you know?
Better be single and be happy than date the wrong person that will suck you dry until you have no more to give.
Would you wait to meet the the right person to date or stay in that ugly relationship and try to turn things around?
We are all faced with tough decisions in life, some that will take us to the next top level and others might lead to our downfall. This scenario is the case of Benedict; she has asked a question that will determine the next phase of her life.
Benedict’s Story goes thus: I am a single lady and foreigner in another country. I have been in there for close to a year. I have suddenly gotten to cross roads where due to certain reasons I overstayed, and cannot go back to my country but live and survive in this foreign land. Now my best friend’s husband has taken it upon himself to assist me, but of course on one condition, that I must warm his bed anytime he requests, else he will not help me any longer, even so, he will report my status to the authorities.
I owe my friend a lot as we are childhood friends, I don’t want to betray her trust,but apparently not sleeping with her husband might cost me a lot, he also warned me not to expose his conversation with me to his wife. I am currently at a pressure point that weighs me down each time I think about it and time is not friendly at the moment.
I sometimes wish I could tear him apart with my bear hands and move on with my life elsewhere, but I patently cannot do that. I don’t want to harm my bestie’s marriage either, but I truly wish I could end up doing that just to set her free from this maniac of a man she is tied to.
In what manner do I handle this situation as it requires just one decision to set me free from this entanglement?
My opinion: If I were a baddest girl, as in ‘sassy’, then I would sleep with her husband and get what I want….Oops–did i just write that?? I would suggest she stays far way from that family and look for help elsewhere to put an end to all this dilemma…. I know life is not a bed of roses. Notwithstanding, I think men like this ought to be taught one or two lessons to put them back on track.
Your kind comments and suggestions are welcome.