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How Not To Stay Single

I published a post on my blog two weeks ago on “Why Men Stay Single,” hence based on one of my dear readers who asked me to write on this topic, “How not to stay single,” here we go. But note, I’m not a relationship expert, everything I write on my blog based on relationships, love, and marriage is of my opinion, research, and true life experiences.

It’s a state of mind when you panic about being single, it should be considered as a learning period; Once you accept the position in your life, it will surprise you how other things will fall into place, things you never expected nor planned. Getting married or entering a long-term relationship is not the end to your struggles… believe me; It’s an eye-opener and another learning ground. But the good news is that if you meet the right person who is willing to travel on the same path – you will be able to rock the boat together regardless of the storms…

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If you don’t want to stay single, consider the following…

-Accept that you are single.

-Search your heart since no one is listening to your thoughts and ask yourself if you are ready for a relationship.

-If you feel insecure or have biased feelings about dating but unwilling to stay single, you might need to make some visits to your therapy.

-Stay happy and take time to discover yourself.

-You will make mistakes but never be hard on yourself.

-Acknowledge that no one is perfect.

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-Don’t be selective of men or women to date.

-Build your confidence, work on your charisma, be real.

-Always put yourself together.

-Don’t rush into any relationship because you don’t want to stay single.

-Don’t dwell on the past but look forward to the future with joy on the horizon.

-Don’t make a list of what the ideal partner should be but open your heart.

-Prepare yourself for agreements, disagreements, love, long-term commitment and whatever you might encounter when you start dating.

-Be ready to let go, there will be times you must sacrifice your desires to make your partner happy.

When your ‘OWN’ partner comes, nothing can stop you from being together… NOTHING

If the relationship doesn’t work out, move on and stay happy, never lose confidence in yourself because it means that you and the person aren’t meant to be together.

Feel free to share your opinions on how not to stay single.

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Why Do Men Stay Single

I wanted to write a post on “Reasons men stay single” but then I realized that there’s a high chance I might end up not listing all. These reasons have evolved and increased over the years just as technology has developed. You know a few reasons men give include, “I love my privacy,”  “I’m living my life,” “I need to make more money,” “I’m not sure I will be a good father,” “I’ve not found a loving woman,” and lots more…I’m not trying to lash out at men but this post is for good reason.

We all desire privacy and want to live our lives, we seek for the best; I know for a fact that single life is significant but I think it should only be for a time that leads to maturity. There are many more single women waiting to meet men ready to outgrow the single man status, yet the number grows every day. God created every man with a missing rib and until you find it, you will never be fulfilled in life.

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Men have thousands of reason to stay single thus indicating many more irrational motives and belief towards this action; with all sincerity, men don’t even have a genuine reason for wanting to stay single and I’ve realized over time that they will always have excuses for everything pertaining to staying single.

Why do men stay single? Kindly share your opinions.

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Thoughts- I Think He’s A Married Man

When a man approaches a woman, her first thought is “what does he want?”

When the man opens his mouth to talk to the woman, his thoughts are “I hope she likes me, I don’t think she will turn me down.”

He speaks nicely to her and then she says to herself “I hope he’s single.”

The irony of life is dissapointment flies around unashamedly.

After so much time hanging out, the woman starts to suspect and says to herself “I think he’s married.”

So what do you do next?

It’s left for you to decide…I’ve always had one principle “never date a married man,” He’s not worth your time.

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Dating The Wrong Person

You saw her

Chased her

Dated her

Loved her

Married her

Then you should keep loving her…

Just don’t ever stop chasing her….

Are you in a relationship that brings tears, sorrow, doubts, low self esteem into your life?

You used to be a very happy person, fun to be with, ambitious but all of a sudden you don’t even know who you are anymore, you find yourself feeling agitated a lot, your smiles fading day by day.

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Then you are dating the wrong person….being single is also a virtue you know?

Better be single and be happy than date the wrong person that will suck you dry until you have no more to give.

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Would you wait to meet the the right person to date or stay in that ugly relationship and try to turn things around?

 

Sleep with My Best Friend’s Husband?

We are all faced with tough decisions in life, some that will take us to the next top level and others might lead to our downfall. This scenario is the case of Benedict; she has asked a question that will determine the next phase of her life.

Benedict’s Story goes thus: I am a single lady and foreigner in another country. I have been in there for close to a year. I have suddenly gotten to cross roads where due to certain reasons I overstayed, and cannot go back to my country but live and survive in this foreign land. Now my best friend’s husband has taken it upon himself to assist me, but of course on one condition, that I must warm his bed anytime he requests, else he will not help me any longer, even so, he will  report my status to the authorities.

I owe my friend a lot as we are childhood friends, I don’t want to betray her trust,but apparently not sleeping with her husband might cost me a lot, he also warned me not to expose his conversation with me to his wife. I am currently at a pressure point that weighs me down each time I think about it and time is not friendly at the moment.

Angry womanI sometimes wish I could tear him apart with my bear hands and move on with my life elsewhere, but I patently cannot do that. I don’t want to harm my bestie’s marriage either, but I truly wish I could end up doing that just to set her free from this maniac of a man she is tied to.

In what manner do I handle this situation as it requires just one decision to set me free from this entanglement?

My opinion: If I were a baddest girl, as in ‘sassy’, then I would sleep with her husband and get what I want….Oops–did i just write that?? I would suggest she stays far way from that family and look for help elsewhere to put an end to all this dilemma…. I know life is not a bed of roses. Notwithstanding, I think men like this ought to be taught one or two lessons to put them back on track.

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Your kind comments and suggestions are welcome.